Coaching practices for Existential Authenticity Practice

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’m facing a real decision and I realize I’m about to choose what my family or my role or "what one does" expects of me, not what I actually value
  • I’m so used to managing how I come across that I’m not even sure people know the real me
  • I tell myself I’m a generous, present, hardworking person, but when I actually look at how I spent this week, my behavior tells a different story
  • I fuse so completely with whatever I’m thinking or feeling
  • The person I want to become still feels like a stranger I’m imagining, not someone I actually am yet

Practices that may help

  1. Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
    Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  2. Existentialism and Radical Choice
    Jean-Paul Sartre’s existentialism holds that human beings have no fixed nature — "existence precedes essence" — and are therefore radically free to define themselves through their choices. The practical implication is that you cannot hide behind role, instinct, or circumstance: you are always already choosing, including when you tell yourself you have no choice. This is philosophical rather than clinical; its overlap with ACT and CBT is real but indirect.
  3. Cultivate authenticity
    Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  4. Define yourself by actions, not intentions
    You are not your intentions or your self-image — you are the accumulation of what you actually do.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  5. Practice loosening identification with the ego-self
    Train the capacity to observe your thoughts, feelings, and roles without completely being them.
    The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical
  6. Journal as the person you are becoming, not the person you have been
    Writing from your desired identity’s perspective, even tentatively, strengthens its psychological availability.
    Identity Priming, Made Practical
  7. Take seriously that you have no fixed nature
    Stop treating your personality, role, or past as a given — you are always in the process of defining yourself.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  8. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
    Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  9. Commit to lucidity about your situation
    Resist the comfort of illusion — see your situation clearly, even where it is difficult, and act from that clarity.
    Absurdism and the Practice of Meaning Despite
  10. Audit whether you are living your life or someone else’s
    Identify the places where your choices reflect others’ expectations rather than your own values.
    The Regret of the Dying

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