Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with Narcissistic Parents

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• I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
• I keep waiting for them to change so I can finally feel okay, and it never comes
• When the scared, ashamed part of me shows up, my first move is to snap at it to grow up
• They keep pushing a demand on me and every time I push back with a flat “no” it just hardens them
• When I’m overwhelmed I just clamp down and handle it by myself in silence, even with my partner right there

Practices that may help

1. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
   Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
2. Radical responsibility (cleaning)
   Treat every disturbance in your experience as something you can "clean" from your own perception.
   Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Forgiveness and Reconciliation
3. Self-applied limited reparenting
   Treat the vulnerable child mode in yourself with the care and limits that childhood should have provided.
   Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs
4. Ask calibrated questions
   Use open "how" and "what" questions that hand them the problem to solve with you.
   Tactical Empathy
5. Shift from one-person to two-person psychology
   Stop managing your distress alone and start managing it together.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
6. Understanding protectors
   Get to know the managers and firefighters that work hard to keep you from pain.
   Internal Family Systems (IFS), Made Practical
7. N — Nurture with self-compassion
   Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
8. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
9. Drive all blames into one
   When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
10. Develop discrepancy between values and behavior
    Gently hold up the gap between what the person wants and what they’re doing.
    Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical

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