Coaching practices for How Do You Deal with Narcissistic Parents

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• I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
• When the scared, ashamed part of me shows up, my first move is to snap at it to grow up
• Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
• When I’m overwhelmed I just clamp down and handle it by myself in silence, even with my partner right there
• When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options

Practices that may help

1. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
   Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
2. Self-applied limited reparenting
   Treat the vulnerable child mode in yourself with the care and limits that childhood should have provided.
   Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs
3. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
4. Shift from one-person to two-person psychology
   Stop managing your distress alone and start managing it together.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
5. Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
   Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
6. Radical responsibility (cleaning)
   Treat every disturbance in your experience as something you can "clean" from your own perception.
   Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Forgiveness and Reconciliation
7. Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
   Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
8. N — Nurture with self-compassion
   Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
9. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
10. Drive all blames into one
    When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
    Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training

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