Coaching practices for How to Deal with Narcissistic Parents Book

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• I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
• There’s a chapter of real pain I keep at arm’s length, and I sense that if I could face it instead of avoiding it, it might be where the deepest meaning lives
• Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
• I know who I’m going to deal with today
• When the scared, ashamed part of me shows up, my first move is to snap at it to grow up

Practices that may help

1. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
   Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
2. Find the meaning your hardest experiences made available
   Revisit your most difficult chapters and look for what only that experience could teach.
   Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
3. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
4. Premeditate the difficult people
   Each morning, expect to meet the ungrateful, the arrogant, and the dishonest — and pre-decide your response.
   Meditations, as Marcus Practiced It
5. Self-applied limited reparenting
   Treat the vulnerable child mode in yourself with the care and limits that childhood should have provided.
   Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs
6. Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
   Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
7. The Absent But Implicit: What Problems Reveal About What We Value
   Every problem story implies a violated value — surfacing that value reveals the person’s strengths, not just their struggles.
   Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You
8. Drive all blames into one
   When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
9. N — Nurture with self-compassion
   Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
10. Apply self-kindness as actively as you would to a friend
    Treat yourself with the same warmth and understanding you would offer a close friend in the same situation.
    Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem

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