How Does Problem Focused Coping Work? 10 Coaching Practices to Try

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Practices that may help

1. Match coping mode to what is actually controllable
   Use problem-focused coping when you can change the situation; emotion-focused coping when you cannot.
   Stress Inoculation Training
2. Apply problem-focused coping to changeable stressors
   When the stressor is changeable, direct your energy at the situation rather than managing feelings about it.
   Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
3. Apply emotion-focused coping to uncontrollable stressors
   When the stressor cannot be changed, invest your energy in how you relate to the experience rather than fighting the situation.
   Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
4. Coping Questions
   When things seem terrible, ask how the person is managing at all — acknowledging and excavating their resilience.
   Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
5. Select the specific coping skills you will use — in advance
   Choose which DBT or other coping skills you will deploy at each difficult moment, before you are in it.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
6. The Coping Card
   A coping card is a physical or digital card carrying your pre-prepared rational responses to your most common distorted thoughts or crisis triggers — written in advance, when you are calm, so they are available when you are not. Coping cards are a standard CBT tool with strong clinical consensus; they work because working memory and rational access are impaired under stress, and a card externalizes the reasoning that would otherwise be unavailable.
7. Ask the workability question
   Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
8. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
   Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
9. Build a positive problem orientation
   Treat problems as normal, solvable challenges rather than signs of personal failure.
   Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
10. Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
    Solution-focused brief therapy (SFBT), developed by Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg, directs attention to what already works — client strengths, past successes, and desired futures — rather than to analyzing problems. Meta-analyses report small-to-moderate positive effects across a range of presenting issues, with particular strength in behavioral problems and depression in adult populations.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I burn enormous energy trying to fix things that aren’t mine to fix, and then go quiet and just stew over the things I actually could do something about→
• There’s a real part of this I could actually do something about, but instead of acting I just sit and stew in how I feel about it→
• I keep making plans and trying to fix something that genuinely can’t be fixed→
• Everything is genuinely awful right now and any talk of "what would better look like" feels like a slap→
• In the heat of it my mind goes blank and I can’t think of a single thing to actually do→

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