Coaching practices for How to Find Your Values

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  • I can’t tell which of my values are truly mine and which I just absorbed from my parents or my culture
  • If someone asked me what I actually care about, I’m not sure I could answer honestly
  • I say I value family, or health, or creativity
  • If you ask me what I value I’ll say family, health, honesty, growth
  • Working on my values feels like an endless aspiration with no scoreboard

Practices that may help

  1. Values Clarification, Made Practical
    Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
  2. Use the eulogy / future-self lens
    Imagine how you’d want to be remembered to reveal the values you’d defend most.
    Values Clarification, Made Practical
  3. Values clarification: what matters most to you?
    Identify 3–5 core values — not what you should value, but what actually matters when life is stripped back.
    Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
  4. Values clarification through lived evidence
    Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
    Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
  5. The forced-rank sort
    Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
    Values Card Sort
  6. Review the bullseye weekly to track real movement
    Re-mark each domain every week and compare — small outward or inward shifts are your feedback loop.
    Values Bullseye, Made Practical
  7. The values–behavior gap check
    Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
    Values Card Sort
  8. Map your values across the four life domains
    Write one core value statement for each domain — work, relationships, personal growth, leisure — before touching the bullseye.
    Values Bullseye, Made Practical
  9. Elicit your actual values before looking at your budget
    Write your top five values without looking at your bank statement — then compare the two.
    Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
  10. Clarify values and choose them actively
    Name what genuinely matters to you — not what should matter — and make it a live choice today.
    Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical

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