Coaching practices for How to Live Authentically
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’m so used to managing how I come across that I’m not even sure people know the real me
- I look at the big shape of my life
- I’m facing a real decision and I realize I’m about to choose what my family or my role or "what one does" expects of me, not what I actually value
- With the person closest to me I’ve fallen into playing a role, and the most real parts of me stay tucked away
- I’m living by a whole set of rules about how life should go, and it’s started to dawn on me that I never actually chose most of them
Practices that may help
- Cultivate authenticity
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - Audit whether you are living your life or someone else’s
Identify the places where your choices reflect others’ expectations rather than your own values.
The Regret of the Dying - Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
Existentialism and Radical Choice - Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical - Conduct a regular examined-life audit
Periodically ask: which of the beliefs I am living by have I actually examined, and which am I just inheriting?
The Socratic Method, Made Practical - The practice of personal integrity
Keep your behavior aligned with your stated values — match your walk to your talk.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - The practice of living consciously
Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Values Clarification, Made Practical
Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research. - Stop surface acting
Recognize when you’re masking emotions at work or in relationships, and find low-cost outlets for what you actually feel.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Use the eulogy / future-self lens
Imagine how you’d want to be remembered to reveal the values you’d defend most.
Values Clarification, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Authenticity
Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
- Existential Authenticity Practice
Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
- What Is Some Advice For Being Authentic I Really Struggle With It And I Want To Be Real
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
Cultivate authenticity
- Authenticity Exercise
Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
- Being Your True Self
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
- Emotional Authenticity
Naming and honestly expressing what you feel — rather than suppressing, masking, or performing emotions — is linked to lower physiological stress, better relationships, and more effective self-regulation. Decades of research on expressive writing and emotional disclosure support the general principle, though effects are modest and depend heavily on how disclosure is done.
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