Coaching practices for What is Some Advice for Being Authentic I Really Struggle with it and I Want to Be Real

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• I’m so used to managing how I come across that I’m not even sure people know the real me
• With the person closest to me I’ve fallen into playing a role, and the most real parts of me stay tucked away
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• I want to let this person see I’m human, but I can’t tell which of my struggles is safe to share
• I want to be able to say the true thing in a hard conversation without either shrinking myself to keep them comfortable or steamrolling them to protect myself

Practices that may help

1. Cultivate authenticity
   Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
   The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
2. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
   Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
3. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Share a past struggle that is now resolved
   Disclosing a difficulty you genuinely overcame is humanizing; disclosing an ongoing weakness without resolve is destabilizing.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
5. Practice congruent communication
   Say what you feel, about what you observe, while caring for both yourself and the other person.
   The Satir Model
6. Practice calibrated self-disclosure to allow genuine connection
   Share something true about your inner experience — not performed, not calculated — to let someone in.
   Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness
7. The practice of self-acceptance
   Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
8. Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel
   The over-polished version of your story creates distance; the real version creates connection.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
9. The practice of personal integrity
   Keep your behavior aligned with your stated values — match your walk to your talk.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
10. Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
    Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice

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