How to Quit Perfectionism: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices
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Practices that may help
- Let go of perfectionism
See perfectionism as a shield against judgment, not a path to excellence — and set it down.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - Tolerating and valuing incompleteness
Practise stopping a task or project while it is still good-enough but not finished, and noticing that the world does not end.
Wabi-Sabi: Finding Beauty in Imperfection - Practice self-compassion
Respond to your own imperfection with the kindness you’d offer a friend, not harsh judgment.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - Create safety for imperfect first drafts
Give yourself explicit permission to produce a rough first version — perfectionism is a procrastination driver.
The Now Habit, Made Practical - Identify and reduce perfectionism-driven aversion
Perfectionism makes starting the full task aversive by raising the stakes to an unachievable standard.
Task Aversion and Procrastination - Releasing the ideal version
Identify one project, relationship, or self-image that you are waiting to be perfect and engage with its actual state instead.
Wabi-Sabi: Finding Beauty in Imperfection - Define "done" before you start
Specify the minimum criteria for a complete output before beginning, so you have a clear stop condition.
Parkinson's Law, Made Practical - Cultivate authenticity
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - All-or-nothing thinking (black-and-white thinking)
Evaluate situations and yourself in absolute, binary terms — perfect or failure, always or never.
Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression - Claim worthiness now
Believe you are worthy of love and belonging as you are — not after you fix yourself.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I won’t put anything out until it’s flawless, so most of it never goes out at all
- I physically can’t leave something unfinished
- When I mess up I tear into myself in a way I’d never speak to anyone I love
- I freeze on the first sentence because it has to be perfect, and if the opening isn’t right I can’t move on
- I can’t make myself start because part of me knows it has to come out great, and a rough first attempt feels like proof I’m not good enough
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