How to Quit Second Guessing Yourself: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices

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Practices that may help

1. Treat your decision as more final than it is
   Mentally close off the "undo" option to stop rumination and increase satisfaction.
   Choice Overload, Made Practical
2. Execute from procedural memory without step-by-step monitoring
   Trust the automatic version of your skill and resist the urge to supervise each movement.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
3. Run uncertainty experiments
   Deliberately leave small things uncertain and observe what actually happens.
   Accepting Uncertainty: The Core Skill in CBT for GAD
4. Ask 'What am I missing?' before major decisions
   Treat a confident feeling before a high-stakes decision as a cue to check what your competence map is omitting.
   Circle of Competence
5. Actively update your estimate of how much others notice
   When you assume everyone saw your blunder, consciously cut the estimate in half.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
6. Meet the urge without judging yourself
   Treat having an urge as normal and human, not as evidence of weakness.
   Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
7. Build genuine self-efficacy to eliminate the motive
   The most durable cure for self-handicapping is a genuine track record of success that makes the excuse unnecessary.
   Self-Handicapping: Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup
8. Keep an evidence log
   Record concrete proof of your competence to counter the brain’s habit of discounting it.
   Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical
9. Postpone rather than eliminate reassurance-seeking
   When you feel the urge to check or ask, wait 20 minutes first — and usually the urge passes.
   Accepting Uncertainty: The Core Skill in CBT for GAD
10. Apply defusion to reassurance-seeking urges
    When you feel the urge to check or seek reassurance, defuse the urge itself, not just the content.
    Defusion from Anxious Thoughts

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I deliberately leave my decisions open so I can back out later, thinking that protects me→
• Halfway through doing the thing I suddenly doubt myself and try to take over the controls mid-motion, and that little hitch of second-guessing is the exact thing that breaks it→
• Part of me already knows the checking is overkill, but I keep doing it anyway, and I’ve never once let myself just not→
• I feel completely sure about this decision, which is honestly starting to make me nervous→
• The second I stumble over a word or trip on a step, my whole body floods with the certainty that the entire room clocked it and is still thinking about it→

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