How to Self Regulate Your Emotions: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices
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Practices that may help
- Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Self-awareness
Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical - Self-regulation
Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical - Map your emotional landscape
Identify which situations reliably produce which emotions for you — before you need to regulate them.
Situation Selection, Made Practical - Observe the emotion without feeding it
When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Co-regulation (borrow a calmer nervous system)
Use contact with a calm, safe person to bring your own system down — we regulate through each other first.
Polyvagal Theory, Honestly Explained - Regular emotional check-in
Set aside a few minutes each day to honestly ask what you are actually feeling right now.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
- I’ll snap at someone or make a bad call and only realize hours later that I was already in a mood the whole time
- Something sets me off and I’m already reacting before I’ve even thought
- My moods seem to come out of nowhere
- Something just set me off and I can feel it surging right now
Related concerns
- How Can I Regulate My Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
Mindfulness of the current emotion
- How Do I Know If I Can Regulate My Emotions
Identify which situations reliably produce which emotions for you — before you need to regulate them.
Map your emotional landscape
- How Do People Learn To Regulate Their Emotions
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
- Regulate Your Own Emotions
Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
Self-regulation
- Emotional Regulation And Awareness
Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
Self-awareness
- How Can I Learn To Control My Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
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