How to Stop Avoiding Negative Emotions: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices

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Practices that may help

1. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
   Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
2. Opposite action
   When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
3. A — Allow the experience to be as it is
   Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
4. Give yourself permission to feel
   Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
5. Acceptance (willingness)
   Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
   Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
6. Approach when fear says avoid
   When unjustified fear urges avoidance, deliberately approach the thing instead.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
7. Accumulate positive experiences
   Deliberately do things that generate positive emotion — building a reservoir that distress draws from.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
8. Meeting emotion in open presence
   When a difficult emotion arises during open monitoring, stay in the witnessing position rather than contracting or escaping.
   Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical
9. Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
   When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
   Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
10. Identify and interrupt avoidance and withdrawal patterns
    Notice when you are avoiding or withdrawing and treat it as the maintenance mechanism, not self-care.
    Behavioral Activation: Acting Your Way Out of Low Mood

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it→
• Every instinct I have right now is telling me to cancel, to hide, to not pick up the phone→
• I keep trying to shove this feeling down or talk myself out of it, and the harder I fight it the worse it gets→
• I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"→
• I spend so much energy trying to push down or get rid of what I feel, and it just comes back stronger→

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