List of Stuck Points: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices

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Practices that may help

1. Identify your stuck points
   Name the specific beliefs about safety, trust, control, esteem, or intimacy that the trauma has frozen.
   Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
2. Watch for cards that stay in Doing without moving
   A card that hasn’t moved in several days is a signal about a real obstacle — examine it rather than adding more work.
   Personal Kanban, Made Practical
3. Use Socratic questions to examine stuck points
   Challenge stuck points with specific questions that examine the evidence rather than argue against the belief.
   Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
4. Failure tolerance building
   Normalize getting stuck — use stuck-ness as a diagnostic signal rather than a stop sign.
   Productive Failure: How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective
5. Take a deliberate incubation break
   When stuck, stop working the problem and let time and an unrelated activity do the work.
   Incubation: Why Stepping Away Solves Problems
6. Recognize your demon dialogue -- the negative cycle running your relationship
   Every stuck couple has a predictable negative loop; naming it together is the first step out.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
7. Identify and name your negative cycle
   Every stuck couple has a predictable escalation pattern -- naming it lets you step outside it.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
8. Use a challenging beliefs worksheet to work a stuck point completely
   The CPT challenging beliefs worksheet is a structured, written process for examining one stuck point at a time.
   Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
9. Expand the ZOPA by adding issues to the negotiation
   When you’re stuck on a single issue, adding more issues often creates room for trades that satisfy both sides.
   ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
10. Pinpoint where the explanation breaks
    Treat every stumble, hand-wave, or jargon-grab as a flag for a real gap.
    The Feynman Technique, Step by Step

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Ever since what happened I move through life with these flat, absolute rules running underneath everything→
• There’s this one task that’s just been sitting there untouched for days while I quietly start other things around it, and instead of facing why it’s stuck→
• I know on some level that “it was my fault” isn’t really true, and people have told me as much, but every time I try to just argue myself out of it the belief digs in harder→
• The moment I get stuck a voice goes "see, you’re just not smart enough for this," and it stings so much I quit and reach for an easier version→
• I’ve been hammering at this for hours and just going in circles, but stopping feels like quitting, so I keep grinding→

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