Coaching practices for Lojong Tibetan Mind Training as a Parent
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve started catching a smugness in myself
- My whole instinct is to push pain away and grab at anything that feels good, and I’m tired of how walled-off that makes me
- I’m kind and openhearted with the people I already love and quietly closed off to the ones who get under my skin, and I’m realizing that warmth that only flows toward easy people isn’t really the practice
- There’s a mental pattern I keep trying to change all at once and then giving up when it doesn’t budge
- The second something throws me
Practices that may help
- Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
Lojong is a Tibetan Buddhist mind-training system, codified by Atisha and later Chekawa, built around 59 slogans that train the mind to transform adversity into awakening and to cultivate compassion for all beings including oneself. Evidence is primarily contemplative-clinical; some practices (loving-kindness, tonglen-adjacent exercises) have been studied, but the full system is practitioner tradition rather than a clinical protocol. - Don’t make gods into demons
Don’t let spiritual practice become a source of pride, judgment, or superiority over others.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Tonglen: sending and taking
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Always abide by the three principles
Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Train in the three difficulties
Notice the habitual pattern, decide to interrupt it, and then work on making the interruption automatic.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Practise with the unexpected
When things go wrong unexpectedly, use that moment as the actual practice rather than a break from it.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Drive all blames into one
When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
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- Lojong Tibetan Mind Training When Burned Out
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- Lojong Tibetan Mind Training When Overwhelmed
Lojong is a Tibetan Buddhist mind-training system, codified by Atisha and later Chekawa, built around 59 slogans that train the mind to transform adversity into awakening and to cultivate compassion for all beings including oneself. Evidence is primarily contemplative-clinical; some practices (loving-kindness, tonglen-adjacent exercises) have been studied, but the full system is practitioner tradition rather than a clinical protocol.
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