Coaching practices for Lojong Tibetan Mind Training at Work

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• My whole instinct is to push pain away and grab at anything that feels good, and I’m tired of how walled-off that makes me
• The second something throws me
• I’ve started catching a smugness in myself
• I’m kind and openhearted with the people I already love and quietly closed off to the ones who get under my skin, and I’m realizing that warmth that only flows toward easy people isn’t really the practice
• I pass real suffering all day

Practices that may help

1. Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
   Lojong is a Tibetan Buddhist mind-training system, codified by Atisha and later Chekawa, built around 59 slogans that train the mind to transform adversity into awakening and to cultivate compassion for all beings including oneself. Evidence is primarily contemplative-clinical; some practices (loving-kindness, tonglen-adjacent exercises) have been studied, but the full system is practitioner tradition rather than a clinical protocol.
2. Tonglen: sending and taking
   Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
3. Practise with the unexpected
   When things go wrong unexpectedly, use that moment as the actual practice rather than a break from it.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
4. Don’t make gods into demons
   Don’t let spiritual practice become a source of pride, judgment, or superiority over others.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
5. Always abide by the three principles
   Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
6. Use flash tonglen in the moment of encountering suffering
   A single in-breath of someone’s pain and an out-breath of goodwill is a complete act of tonglen.
   Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
7. Train in the three difficulties
   Notice the habitual pattern, decide to interrupt it, and then work on making the interruption automatic.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
8. Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
   Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
   Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
9. Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
   Tonglen ("taking and sending") is a Tibetan Buddhist compassion practice in which the practitioner breathes in suffering — their own or another’s — and breathes out relief, ease, and goodwill. It works by deliberately moving toward pain rather than away from it, which gradually reduces the fear of suffering and expands the capacity for compassion. Evidence is largely clinical and mechanistic; direct RCTs on tonglen specifically are sparse, though compassion training more broadly shows meaningful effects.
10. Investigate resistance to the practice honestly
    The impulse not to breathe in suffering is information about where your self-protective contraction lives.
    Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending

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