Coaching practices for Motivational Interviewing as a Caregiver

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  • They tell me what kind of parent or partner they want to be, and it’s miles from how they’re actually living
  • Every time I lay out for someone all the reasons they should change, they just argue back for staying exactly as they are
  • I actually have useful information that could help them, but the moment I offer unsolicited advice they tune me out or bristle
  • The only way I’ve ever known to push myself forward is fear and self-attack
  • In these conversations I fire off question after question like an interrogation, and the other person closes up rather than opening

Practices that may help

  1. Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
    Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire.
  2. Develop discrepancy between values and behavior
    Gently hold up the gap between what the person wants and what they’re doing.
    Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
  3. Evoke change talk instead of supplying it
    Ask questions that lead the person to voice their own reasons for changing.
    Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
  4. Share advice with permission (ask–offer–ask)
    Ask what they know, offer information with consent, then ask what they make of it.
    Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
  5. Compassionate motivation over fear
    Drive change from care for your future self rather than from self-attack.
    Self-Compassion, Made Practical
  6. Use OARS to make the person feel understood
    Open questions, Affirmations, Reflections, Summaries — the four core micro-skills.
    Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
  7. Diagnose whether you are stuck on expectancy or value
    Before trying to motivate yourself, identify which of the two factors is actually low.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  8. Use motivational self-talk for endurance and power tasks
    Pump yourself up verbally for tasks requiring effort, strength, or push through discomfort.
    Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
  9. Roll with resistance instead of fighting it
    When you meet a push-back, soften and reflect rather than argue.
    Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
  10. Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
    Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor

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