Coaching practices for Play After Conflict Children
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- After a blow-up with my kid we both stay frozen and far apart, and I keep trying to talk it through, to get an apology, while the distance just drags on
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- My kid and I agree on a fix and it sounds great in the moment, but a few days later it’s fallen apart again
Practices that may help
- Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Name it to tame it: tell the story of the big feeling
Help the child narrate what happened and how it felt — storytelling is brain integration.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Use a storytelling round to build mutual understanding before solving
Before moving to resolution, give each person a round to tell their experience of what happened.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Use a brief reset rather than escalating consequences
A short, calm time-out ends the incident without energizing it.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Related concerns
- 5 Yr Olds Toy Taken By A Another Kid
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
- Collaborative Parenting Solution
A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
- Deal With Child In Self Destruct Mode With Sibling
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
- Dealing With Parental Alienation Syndrome Pas When The Child Is Younger
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- Game For Better Teen Sibling Relationship
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
- How Can I Help My Child Who Was Bitten By Other Children
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
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