Coaching practices for Relationship Maintenance Behaviors in a New Job

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  • We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot
  • I’m warmer and lighter with near-strangers than I am with my own partner
  • We’re comfortable and we still do plenty together, but it’s the same loop every week
  • I’m about to walk into a new job and a new neighborhood, and I’m already bracing for it to be awkward, rehearsing how they probably won’t take to me
  • I’ve started treating every fight we have as proof that something’s broken between us, and because we never really circle back to mend them afterward, each unfinished one chips away at all the good we’ve built

Practices that may help

  1. Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
    Relationship maintenance behaviors are the everyday actions partners use to sustain relationship satisfaction, commitment, and closeness over time. Laura Stafford’s research identified five evidence-linked categories — positivity, openness, assurances, social networks, and sharing tasks — with positivity and assurances showing the strongest and most consistent links to satisfaction.
  2. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
    Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  3. Maintain positivity as a daily practice
    Be pleasant, cheerful, and avoid criticism as a baseline — not only when things are good.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  4. Regularly share novel and enjoyable activities
    Do new things together — not only comfortable or habitual ones.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  5. Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
    Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
    The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger)
  6. Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure
    Repair well and quickly — because how you end conflict matters more than how you conduct it.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  7. Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
    When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
    The Habit Discontinuity Effect
  8. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
    Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  9. Build secure-functioning habits
    Practice the behaviors of secure attachment — reliability, responsiveness, repair — on purpose.
    Attachment Theory, Made Usable
  10. Share tasks equitably — and feel equitable about it
    Divide practical responsibilities in a way both partners experience as fair.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors

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