Coaching practices for Relationship Maintenance Behaviors with My Team

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  • We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot
  • I’m warmer and lighter with near-strangers than I am with my own partner
  • Things with my manager have gone cold and transactional, and we’re both just avoiding it and quietly resenting each other
  • I’ve started treating every fight we have as proof that something’s broken between us, and because we never really circle back to mend them afterward, each unfinished one chips away at all the good we’ve built
  • I figure my partner just knows I’m in this and committed, so I almost never actually say it out loud anymore

Practices that may help

  1. Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
    Relationship maintenance behaviors are the everyday actions partners use to sustain relationship satisfaction, commitment, and closeness over time. Laura Stafford’s research identified five evidence-linked categories — positivity, openness, assurances, social networks, and sharing tasks — with positivity and assurances showing the strongest and most consistent links to satisfaction.
  2. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
    Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  3. Maintain positivity as a daily practice
    Be pleasant, cheerful, and avoid criticism as a baseline — not only when things are good.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  4. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
    Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  5. Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure
    Repair well and quickly — because how you end conflict matters more than how you conduct it.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  6. Give regular assurances of commitment
    Explicitly remind your partner of your love, commitment, and investment in the relationship.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  7. Deliberately expand your inner circle
    Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  8. Performing: step back and protect the conditions
    A Performing team needs air cover and resources, not direction.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
  9. Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
    Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  10. Share tasks equitably — and feel equitable about it
    Divide practical responsibilities in a way both partners experience as fair.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors

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