Speaking Up for You: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Speaking Up for You, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Practices that may help
- The practice of self-assertiveness
Honor your wants, needs, and values by expressing them in the world — appropriately and openly.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Words of affirmation
Express care through spoken or written appreciation, encouragement, and explicit affection.
The Five Love Languages, Honestly - Fierce protection: say "no" from care, not fear
Defend your time, body, and dignity as you would defend a beloved child — because you are equally worth defending.
Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Reward the voice, not just the agreement
Make dissent and questions cost less than silence by visibly valuing them.
Psychological Safety, Made Practical - Speak difficult truths from strength, not submission
Say the hard thing — the feedback, the disagreement, the "this is wrong" — from a grounded, caring place.
Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - Use I-statements
Own your experience — "I feel… when… because…" — instead of accusing with "you".
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Remonstrance: the courage to offer honest correction
When someone you care about is heading toward harm or error, find the courage to say so clearly but respectfully.
Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Apologies: stop apologizing for existing, wanting, or having limits
Reserve apologies for actual harm caused — not for having needs, feelings, or opinions.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep swallowing what I actually want and going along to keep the peace, and every time I stay silent against my own wishes it quietly tells me my needs don’t matter
- My partner does so much for me and around the house, but what I’m quietly starving for is just to hear it out loud
- I keep saying yes to things that drain me because saying no feels selfish or mean
- Someone finally raised an objection that turned out to be right, and I just moved on without ever acknowledging it
- When I disagree or something’s wrong, I usually just swallow it to keep the peace
Related concerns
- How To Help Elder Sibling Speak Up For Himself
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- Speaking Up For Yourself At Work
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
- Why Am I So Disrespectful To My Family
Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
- Courage To Speak Up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
- How Do I Stop Being A People Pleaser All My Life And Am I Being Selfish By Putting Myself First
Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
- How To Speak Up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
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