Coaching practices for Supporting Kid in Innovation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My kid and I agree on a fix and it sounds great in the moment, but a few days later it’s fallen apart again
- I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- My kid has started hiding mistakes and bracing like they’re in trouble before I’ve even said anything, and I think it’s because my first reaction to a spill or a broken thing is always the accusation
- I keep telling my kid they’re so smart, so gifted
Practices that may help
- Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Praise process, not innate ability
Acknowledge effort, strategy, and choices rather than "you’re so smart".
Growth Mindset: The Honest Version - Run low-cost experiments on intersectional ideas
Test cross-domain ideas quickly and cheaply before investing in them fully.
The Medici Effect: Innovation at the Intersection - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Related concerns
- Creative Confidence As A Parent
Creative confidence, as defined by Tom and David Kelley of IDEO, is the belief that you can generate good ideas and act on them — and research on self-efficacy shows it is learnable, not fixed. The core method is accumulating small creative wins through guided practice, which rebuilds confidence that was typically damaged by early criticism or comparison.
- Encouraging A Child To Follow Their Natural Gifts
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Feel Like I M Failing My 11 Year Old Daughter
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
- How Can I Help My Child Develop Social Intelligence
Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
- How Can I Help My Child Learn To Learn Better
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- How To Encourage Children
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
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