Coaching practices for The Coaching Habit Seven Questions to Be More Coach Like After a Setback

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• My conversations just sort of trail off when the time runs out, and people leave with a polite thanks
• The conversation keeps circling the same complaint without ever landing anywhere, and it slowly dawns on me that the person venting to me has never once said what they actually want to come out of this
• The people I coach leave fired up with a plan, but the first ordinary snag throws them and the whole thing quietly dies
• When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
• I keep saying yes to every exciting new thing because in the moment it just feels like more good, and then I look up overcommitted and stretched thin

Practices that may help

1. The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
   Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven questions — from "What’s on your mind?" through "What was most useful for you?" — are a practical system for coaching conversations that takes less than a minute to learn and a career to master. The framework is practitioner-derived from behavioral coaching practice; its mechanisms are grounded in autonomy support, self-determination, and the generation effect. The questions work because they shift the cognitive labor back to the person who owns the problem.
2. Close with "What was most useful for you?"
   The closing question turns the conversation into a learning that sticks — and teaches you what is actually valuable.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
3. Ask "What do you want?"
   People often know what they want but haven’t said it — asking directly surfaces it and shifts from complaint to intention.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
4. Obstacle anticipation before close
   Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
5. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
   Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
6. Ask "If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
   Every yes is a yes-at-the-expense-of-something — making the trade-off explicit is the most useful thing a coach can do.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
7. Close the GROW loop with session review
   At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
8. Ask "And what else?"
   The first answer is rarely the most important one — "And what else?" pulls out the one that actually matters.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
9. Run brief after-action reviews without blame
   After any significant outcome — success or failure — ask four questions together as a team.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
10. Replace performance review conversations with feedforward conversations
    In coaching conversations, ask "what could you do differently?" instead of "what went wrong?"
    Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior

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