Coaching practices for Triple P Self Care

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
• There are a few situations that go badly every single time
• My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
• When I’m this far gone no single trick is enough
• I end up saying the same thing five times, louder each time, until I’m basically yelling before anything happens

Practices that may help

1. Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
   Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
2. Manage your own emotional state before responding
   A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
3. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
   Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
4. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
   Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
5. Combine TIPP components into a crisis sequence
   For very high arousal, run TIPP as a full sequence — temperature first, then exercise, then breathing, then relaxation.
   TIPP: DBT’s Crisis Skill for Rapidly Lowering Emotional Intensity
6. Give clear, calm, single instructions
   One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
7. Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
   Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
8. Understand TIPP — the full DBT context for this skill
   Temperature is one of four DBT crisis-survival tools (TIPP: Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, Paired muscle relaxation).
   The Dive Reflex, Made Practical
9. Use TIPP to make other skills accessible again
   TIPP is not the endpoint — it reduces arousal so cognitive and interpersonal skills become usable.
   TIPP: DBT’s Crisis Skill for Rapidly Lowering Emotional Intensity
10. Shift from one-person to two-person psychology
    Stop managing your distress alone and start managing it together.
    Secure-Functioning Relationships

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