Coaching practices for What Do You Want Coaching

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • When someone I’m coaching brings me a topic, we just end up circling it and venting
  • The conversation keeps circling the same complaint without ever landing anywhere, and it slowly dawns on me that the person venting to me has never once said what they actually want to come out of this
  • I think I’m asking questions, but they’re really suggestions in disguise
  • When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
  • My one-on-ones sprawl and end with nothing decided

Practices that may help

  1. Clarify the Goal with precision
    Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  2. Ask "What do you want?"
    People often know what they want but haven’t said it — asking directly surfaces it and shifts from complaint to intention.
    The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
  3. Powerful open questions at every stage
    Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  4. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
    Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  5. Set the Goal — establish what the conversation is for
    Begin every coaching conversation by clarifying what the person wants to achieve in this session.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  6. Obstacle anticipation before close
    Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  7. Build a concrete Will commitment
    Convert the chosen option into a specific next action with a date, and ask "what will you do?" not "what will you try?"
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  8. Rewrite internal-focus coaching cues as external-focus equivalents
    Audit your coaching language and convert body-focused instructions to effect-focused ones.
    External Focus of Attention, Made Practical
  9. Explore Reality — establish an honest assessment of the current situation
    Help the person see their current situation clearly and specifically, without judgment or premature solutions.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  10. Replace performance review conversations with feedforward conversations
    In coaching conversations, ask "what could you do differently?" instead of "what went wrong?"
    Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior

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