What to Do When Grieving Death? 10 Coaching Practices to Try
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Practices that may help
- Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Create private rituals for losses that have no public ceremony
Design your own mourning practice for a loss that comes with no cultural script.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
- I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- People keep telling me I need to let them go and move on, and everything in me refuses
Related concerns
- How Do I Deal With Overwhelming Grief
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Create a deliberate grief window
- How Do You Deal With Complicated Grief
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- How To Deal With Grief Wikihow
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
- How To Deal With Grieving Mother
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
- How To Handle Grief
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
- How To Make Grief Go Away
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Havening to soften acute grief activation
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