Coaching practices for I've Got the Conversation Booked but I'm Staring at a Blank Page of Questions Worried I'll Waste Their Time Asking Things I Could've Googled I Don't Actually Know What to Ask to Learn What the Work is Really Like Behind the Job Posting
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
- I want to message someone in a field I’m curious about, but I freeze on what to even say
- My whole job search is just refreshing job boards and firing off applications into the void, competing with hundreds of strangers for whatever happens to be posted
- The conversation goes great and then it just...
- Someone asks "so what are you looking for?" and I ramble out something vague and apologetic
Practices that may help
- Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Request the conversation the right way
A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Close every informational interview with one forward step
End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Practise your story before you need it
Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Listen for what isn’t in the job description
Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Prepare for the questions a learner would ask
Predict what would confuse a beginner and make sure you can answer it.
The Protege Effect: Learn It Better by Teaching It - Ask what the audience already knows before explaining
Probe prior knowledge explicitly rather than assuming it.
The Curse of Knowledge: Why Experts Struggle to Teach - Study a fully worked example before attempting a new problem type
Read through a completely solved example and understand each step before you try to solve anything yourself.
The Worked Examples Effect: Learn Faster by Studying Solutions First - Build an explicit map of what you don’t know
Write out the known-unknowns in any domain you’re operating in.
The Dunning-Kruger Effect, Understood Clearly
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Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
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Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
- Career Conversation Request
A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
Request the conversation the right way
- Career Research Conversations
An informational interview is a low-stakes conversation with someone in a role or field you’re curious about — you ask questions, they share experience, and no job is on the table. Richard Bolles’s What Color Is Your Parachute? popularised this as a career research tool; the evidence is largely observational and practitioner, but it consistently shows that direct conversation with insiders produces better career decisions and unexpected referrals.
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