Coaching practices for It Feels Like There Are Only Two Outcomes Here I Win or They Win and We're Each Defending Our One Offer to the Death but I Can't Shake the Sense There Are Deals Neither of Us Has Thought of Yet That We're Killing Before We Even Say Them Out Loud

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• It feels like there are only two outcomes here
• We’re deadlocked because they’re certain the numbers will land one way and I’m just as certain they won’t
• The deal is stuck because they swear the numbers will hit and I’m sure they won’t, and neither of us will budge on our forecast
• We finally reached a deal, but I have this nagging sense we both grabbed the first version that worked just to be done
• We’re about to sit down to hash this out and I can already feel us both arriving armed, each braced to win our version

Practices that may help

1. Invent options for mutual gain before selecting
   Generate multiple creative options without commitment before evaluating any — the solution space is usually larger than the initial positions suggest.
   Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
2. Write contingent contracts when forecasts disagree
   If you and the other side have different predictions, let the outcome decide who was right.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
3. Bridge disagreements with contingent terms
   When you disagree about the future, bet on it — tie terms to what actually happens.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
4. Use a post-settlement settlement to improve a deal after agreement
   Once you have a deal, offer to keep exploring whether a better one exists for both sides.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
5. Ask "Are you willing to find a solution better than either of us has thought of?"
   Open the conversation with a single question that resets both parties from adversaries to co-creators.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
6. Define what success looks like together, before proposing solutions
   Agree on the criteria a good solution must meet before either side proposes anything.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
7. Expand the ZOPA by adding issues to the negotiation
   When you’re stuck on a single issue, adding more issues often creates room for trades that satisfy both sides.
   ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
8. Negotiate from abundance, not scarcity
   Question the assumption that what one side gains the other must lose.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
9. Invent options for mutual gain
   Brainstorm multiple possible deals before deciding, expanding the pie before splitting it.
   Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
10. Share information to unlock value
    Reveal interests (not your bottom line) so both sides can find the better deal.
    Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie

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