Coaching practices for When I Try to Breathe in Suffering From a Raw Already Shaky Place it Just Pulls Me Under Rather Than Opening Me I Sense I Need to Settle Into Some Steady Spacious Ground First So I Can Hold the Pain Without Collapsing Into it
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- When I try to breathe in suffering from a raw, already-shaky place it just pulls me under rather than opening me
- I’ve heard of this breathing-in-the-pain practice but it stays a vague idea in my head
- I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
- My whole instinct is to push pain away and grab at anything that feels good, and I’m tired of how walled-off that makes me
- Something in me skips straight past how much this hurts
Practices that may help
- Prepare for tonglen with a brief equanimity grounding
Entering tonglen from a grounded, spacious state makes the practice sustainable rather than destabilising.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Work with the classical two-breath texture
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Tonglen: sending and taking
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Acknowledge: name what is hard
Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
The Self-Compassion Break - Allow facilitator bodywork during intense physical activation
Targeted physical contact by a trained sitter helps discharge trapped body tension that the breath activates.
Holotropic Breathwork, Made Practical - Relax and release stuck energy
When emotion grips, consciously relax and let the energy move through instead of clamping down.
The Untethered Soul, In Practice - Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Stable ground inquiry: what has not changed?
In distress, inquire into what aspect of your awareness has remained constant across all experiences.
The Witness Stance - Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Lojong Mind Training Tonglen Sending Taking
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Tonglen: sending and taking
- Breathing In Own Suffering
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
- How To Meditate With Pain
Use the body scan to observe pain as sensation rather than threat, reducing the secondary suffering of pain-related fear.
Applying the body scan to chronic or acute pain
- When Tonglen Tonglen Breath Texture
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
Work with the classical two-breath texture
- When Tonglen Tonglen For Self
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
- Breathing In Suffering Meditation
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
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