Coaching für die Herausforderungen, die Menschen wirklich mitbringen (page 95)

OKRs for People, Not Just Companies · Define measurable Key Results · Run a regular review cadence + 7 more

Take a validated Big Five measure · The Big Five Personality Model · Read assertiveness and responsiveness quickly + 7 more

Keep a daily sleep diary · Calculate your sleep efficiency before starting · Use 4-7-8 breathing as a sleep-onset ritual + 7 more

Run a PERMA audit of your current well-being · Audit your life against PERMA · Include a happiness question — not as an outcome goal but as a signal + 7 more

Applying the body scan to chronic or acute pain · Tonglen: sending and taking · Practice tonglen for your own suffering first + 7 more

Recognize activation signals during practice · Know your window of tolerance before practicing · Trauma-sensitive modifications — pacing body awareness safely + 7 more

Identify and meet the underlying unmet need · Practice being a secure base for your partner · Listen empathically and validate the feeling + 7 more

Give abstract ideas a concrete image · Ground abstract concepts in concrete, physical instances · Concrete Examples: How to Make Abstract Ideas Stick + 7 more

Identify natural groups before memorizing · Chunk related elements before presenting sequences · Chain items with the linking method + 7 more

Encode numbers with the Major System · Learn the 10-consonant phonetic code · Extend to the Person-Action-Object (PAO) system + 7 more

Learn the 10-consonant phonetic code · Encode numbers with the Major System · The Major System: Encode Numbers as Words + 7 more

Mirror the last few words of what someone just said · Mirroring · Reflect back what you heard + 7 more

Use language mirroring in writing — match their words, not yours · Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical · Mirror the last few words of what someone just said + 7 more

Interleaving: Mix It Up to Learn It Better · Interleave topics within a session · Interleave different topics during study or work + 7 more

Track SUDs across sessions to see your own progress · Move up only when the current step is manageable · Track progress in a way that shows remaining distance + 7 more

Articulate a compelling vision of why the work matters · Align around collective results, not individual status · Believe — and make the why clear + 7 more

Redirect freed cash to a single, named goal · Automate the 20% before the rest of your money arrives · Automate savings and investments before the money hits checking + 7 more

Use an anti-charity donation as your stake · Actively manage the dopamine dip when a reward doesn’t arrive · Connect performance to purpose to sustain engagement under adversity + 7 more

Compassionate motivation over fear · Intrinsic motivation · Use autonomy-supportive self-talk + 7 more

Compassionate motivation over fear · Diagnose whether you are stuck on expectancy or value · Intrinsic motivation + 7 more

Activate deliberately after waking from a nap · The nappuccino: drink caffeine right before napping · Keep the nap to 10–20 minutes + 7 more

Navigate season transitions — the gap is normal and necessary · Update your love map after major life changes · Seasons of Life + 7 more

Reduce friction on desired behaviors · The subtraction practice · Practice voluntary discomfort to weaken the power of desire + 7 more

Use reciprocal concessions in negotiation · Make the step-down visibly deliberate · Use the Ackerman bid sequence: 65%–85%–95%–100% of target + 7 more

Run a negotiation debrief to learn what value was left on the table · Logroll by trading issues of unequal importance · Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take + 7 more

Make the step-down visibly deliberate · Use reciprocal concessions in negotiation · Use the Ackerman bid sequence: 65%–85%–95%–100% of target + 7 more

Negotiate the big wins instead of clipping coupons · Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take · Use the Ackerman bid sequence: 65%–85%–95%–100% of target + 7 more

Steel-man before you rebut · Make repair attempts early and accept them graciously · Maintain positive tone even during disagreement + 7 more

Practice under simulated pressure conditions · Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical · Shift attention to external focus under pressure + 7 more

Rule out mind-reading and fortune-telling · Default to assuming you’ve been misunderstood · Empathy + 7 more

Moving from other-validation to self-validation · Validate: acknowledge what makes sense about their perspective · Use the right level of validation for the situation + 7 more

Protecting unscheduled time · Build buffer blocks into the ideal week · Schedule buffers as first-class commitments + 7 more

Use the DCA system to override market fear · Stay in the situation for the full arc · Use somatic tracking instead of distraction + 7 more

Follow the speaker’s thread, not your own · Correct distracting by returning to what was avoided · Use minimal encouragers + 7 more

Continuous noting — extending the practice into daily activity · Noting emotional states — "agitation," "fear," "joy," "boredom" · Noting Practice, Made Practical + 7 more

Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See · Notice when you are in soldier mode · Actively seek disconfirming evidence + 7 more

Practice noticing what your body is doing · Reading the body as a self-knowledge instrument · The interoceptive body scan + 7 more

Articulate the cues that triggered your recognition · Expert-comparison study · Attentional cueing for critical features + 7 more

Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex · Catch the boomerang effect in yourself · Replace commands with genuine choices + 7 more

Actively notice positive partner behavior · Track what your partner does right, not just wrong · Spot and name character strengths in others + 7 more

Self-awareness · Track your emotions over time · Name what the emotion is doing in your body + 7 more

Draw or sketch the inner system visually · Practice noticing what your body is doing · Take an initial inventory of your parts + 7 more

Notice the noticer · Witnessing thoughts — observing without being them · Watching the thinker + 7 more

Use genius mapping in onboarding · Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical · Communicate effectively with Influence-style people + 7 more

Read behavioral cues before you communicate · Build a shared "third story" · Apply reciprocity in feedback conversations + 7 more

Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask · Anchor your opening near your end of the ZOPA · Communicate inside out: Why → How → What + 7 more

Use the door-in-the-face structure in salary and price negotiations · Make the first offer (when you’re informed) · Anchor your opening near your end of the ZOPA + 7 more

Offer empathy before using an I-statement · Self-empathy · Tactical Empathy + 7 more

Propose a post-settlement settlement to optimize an agreed deal · Use a post-settlement settlement to improve a deal after agreement · Run a negotiation debrief to learn what value was left on the table + 7 more

Add the strongest objection to every major supporting reason · Group supporting ideas into mutually exclusive, collectively exhaustive buckets · Separate the claim from its reasons + 7 more

Use parallel structure across every level of the pyramid · Organize with PARA: Projects, Areas, Resources, Archives · Group supporting ideas into mutually exclusive, collectively exhaustive buckets + 7 more

Use colors and images to encode categories and relationships · Map relationships, not just items · Use mind maps for brainstorming, not verbatim recording + 7 more

Start every mind map with one clear central concept · Use hierarchy depth to signal concept importance · Use single keywords on branches, not sentences + 7 more

Keep each project’s Action Steps physically separate from other projects · Organize with PARA: Projects, Areas, Resources, Archives · Set up a simple To Do / Doing / Done board + 7 more

Counter-Conditioning and Systematic Desensitization · Build a personal discomfort gradient · The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical + 7 more

Surface and examine the assumptions you are making · Separate facts from assumptions explicitly · Default to assuming you’ve been misunderstood + 7 more

Build mastery · Interrupt learned helplessness · Accumulate mastery experiences as confidence deposits + 7 more

Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical · Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure · Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical + 7 more

Loss Aversion, Made Practical · Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate · Name the feeling to defuse the reflex + 7 more

Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal · Clarify the Goal with precision · Internalize goals you did not choose + 7 more

Deliberately slow down at conceptual transitions · Third-party explanation test · Expert-explanation comparison + 7 more

Paraphrase to check understanding · Paraphrase and explicitly check your understanding · Mirror the last few words of what someone just said + 7 more

Cooling-off and waiting rules · Name your present bias before you buy · Apply a 24-hour (or 72-hour) rule to non-essential purchases + 7 more

Freeze new debt acquisition while the snowball is running · Pay minimums on all debts, then attack the smallest with every extra dollar · The Debt Avalanche, Made Practical + 7 more

Taper before a target event to allow full supercompensation to express · Supercompensation · Monitor zone status during competition and intervene early + 7 more

Use paradoxical intention for performance anxiety · Create a pre-performance ritual that includes posture · Accumulate mastery in low-stakes environments first + 7 more

Plan for obstacles with coping plans · Write an if–then plan for your biggest obstacle · Plan — make an if-then plan for the obstacle + 7 more

Capture future commitments in a future log · Identify and schedule big rocks at the start of each week · Create an ideal week template + 7 more

Begin each day with a realistic spoon count · Separate the planning session from the execution day · Make the evening list a non-negotiable daily ritual + 7 more

Separate the planning session from the execution day · Build in buffer · Start from the constraint, not the goal + 7 more

Separate the planning session from the execution day · Make the evening list a non-negotiable daily ritual · Make time for traction with timeboxing + 7 more

The future life line · Draft three Odyssey Plans · Run prototyping conversations before committing to a plan + 7 more

Worry Postponement, Made Practical · Note the worry and defer it · Postpone the thought — do not suppress it + 7 more

Receiving and holding a first koan · Presenting understanding to a teacher (sanzen) · Zen Koans: Inquiry Beyond Reason + 7 more

Centering Prayer: The Method of Thomas Keating · Carrying contemplative consent into daily activity · Choosing and using a sacred word + 7 more

Cognitive Defusion (ACT), Made Practical · Defusion from Anxious Thoughts · Spot defusion moments in ordinary daily reactions + 7 more

Hadra: the Sufi dhikr ceremony · Integrating dhikr with the five daily prayers · Sufi Dhikr: The Practice of Remembrance + 7 more

Build sharper mental representations · Distribute practice sessions across days rather than massing them · Practice with full, undivided focus + 7 more

The Enchiridion, as a Handbook · Sort what is up to you · Prosoche — the practice of attention + 7 more

Kinhin: Zen Walking Meditation · Walking kinhin in ordinary settings · Basic kinhin form and posture + 7 more

Lectio Divina: Sacred Reading · Making lectio divina a brief, daily practice · Applying lectio to other wisdom texts + 7 more

Metta Bhavana: The Practice of Loving-Kindness · Expand metta through the five traditional stages · Loving-Kindness (Metta) Meditation + 7 more

Use on-the-spot metta in daily life · Metta Bhavana: The Practice of Loving-Kindness · Begin with self-directed metta before expanding outward + 7 more

Mindful Eating, Made Practical · The raisin exercise and mini-meal meditation · Full sensory eating — engaging all five senses at each bite + 7 more

Minimalism, Made Practical · Digital Minimalism, Made Practical · The 30-day minimalism game + 7 more

RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice · After RAIN: resting in natural, open awareness · Mini-RAIN: a 2-minute version for mid-day use + 7 more

Sabbath: A Weekly Day of Rest · Prepare so rest is actually possible · Make space for meaning and the sacred + 7 more

Self-Compassion, Made Practical · Cultivate Self through directed inner compassion · The self-compassion break + 7 more

Shikantaza: Just Sitting · Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass · Shikantaza (just sitting) + 7 more

Slow Living, Made Practical · Eating without hurry · Savoring everyday moments + 7 more

Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Practice philosophy as a daily exercise + 7 more

The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day · The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review · Practice the Examen daily and briefly + 7 more

Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending · Prepare for tonglen with a brief equanimity grounding · Use flash tonglen in the moment of encountering suffering + 7 more

Virtue Ethics, Made Practical · Practice virtues as interconnected, not separate · Identify the virtues you most need to cultivate + 7 more

Voluntary Simplicity, Made Practical · Owning fewer, better things · Pruning commitments, not just things + 7 more

Wu Wei — the Practice of Effortless Action · Distinguish acting from forcing · Wu wei — effortless, non-forced action + 7 more

Zen Practice (Zazen and Beyond) · Work as practice (samu) · Zazen posture and breath + 7 more

Self-Compassion, Made Practical · Compassion meditation for widening the circle · Always abide by the three principles + 7 more

Make praise as specific as criticism · Encourage specific contributions and efforts · Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback + 7 more

Encourage specific contributions and efforts · Sportscast what you see rather than directing · Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval + 7 more