Coaching practices for Check the Facts in a New Job

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• If I’m honest, I would never sign up for this job (or this routine, this arrangement) if it were put in front of me fresh today
• When I talk to people in the field they give me the polished official version, and I walk away no clearer on what the day-to-day actually feels like
• I only ever seem to run into facts that prove me right, and I’m starting to suspect that’s because I’m quietly steering toward them
• I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
• I want to know whether my mind is actually anchored to reality or just to itself, and the honest test is to look back: can I name a real belief I once held that evidence later changed

Practices that may help

1. Check the Facts, Made Practical
   "Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
2. Ask: “Would I choose this today if I were starting fresh?”
   Evaluate your current situation as if you were encountering it for the first time, without sunk costs.
   Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default
3. Listen for what isn’t in the job description
   Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
4. Actively seek evidence that would prove you wrong
   Ask what would change your mind — and then look for it.
   The Scout Mindset
5. Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
   Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
6. Review past beliefs for what evidence did and didn’t move them
   Look back at past beliefs and ask: what would have changed my mind then, and did I let it?
   Falsification Thinking
7. Maintain a belief-tracking log with timestamps
   Record your beliefs and confidence levels before evidence arrives, so you can see whether you actually updated.
   Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See
8. Fresh-eyes inquiry: "What if I knew nothing about this?"
   Before engaging a familiar situation, ask what you would notice if you were seeing it for the first time.
   Beginner's Mind (Shoshin), Made Practical
9. Examine the evidence for and against
   Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
10. Decide on a regulation strategy based on what the facts actually show
    Use the outcome of checking the facts to choose the right next step — not the same step every time.
    Check the Facts, Made Practical

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