Coaching practices for Coaching Check in Tool
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- I do these life check-ins alone in my head and then quietly let them slide, and I think if I actually said the low scores out loud to someone who’d remember, I couldn’t just keep ignoring them the way I always do.
- I only ever coach in the rare formal sit-down and then default to firing off answers in every quick hallway exchange
- My conversations just sort of trail off when the time runs out, and people leave with a polite thanks
- The people I coach leave fired up with a plan, but the first ordinary snag throws them and the whole thing quietly dies
- When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
Practices that may help
- Use the wheel as a relationship check-in, not just a solo exercise
Sharing your wheel with a partner, coach, or trusted friend turns a self-assessment into a conversation and a commitment.
The Wheel of Life, Made Practical - The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected
A relationship check-in is a structured, scheduled conversation — usually weekly — where partners deliberately assess how they are doing as a couple: what’s working, what’s building up, and what each person needs. The practice is widely used in couples therapy and coaching, with a strong mechanistic rationale; direct RCT evidence for the structured check-in format specifically is limited. - Use GROW in brief leadership conversations, not just formal coaching sessions
Apply GROW structure to 5-minute hallway conversations and 1-on-1 check-ins — not only to hour-long coaching sessions.
The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People - Close with "What was most useful for you?"
The closing question turns the conversation into a learning that sticks — and teaches you what is actually valuable.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Obstacle anticipation before close
Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People - The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven questions — from "What’s on your mind?" through "What was most useful for you?" — are a practical system for coaching conversations that takes less than a minute to learn and a career to master. The framework is practitioner-derived from behavioral coaching practice; its mechanisms are grounded in autonomy support, self-determination, and the generation effect. The questions work because they shift the cognitive labor back to the person who owns the problem. - Close the GROW loop with session review
At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Powerful open questions at every stage
Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Keep check-ins short — consistency beats comprehensiveness
A 20-minute check-in every week beats a 3-hour one every quarter.
The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected
Related concerns
- Awl Question Coaching Habit
The first answer is rarely the most important one — "And what else?" pulls out the one that actually matters.
Ask "And what else?"
- Coaching Habit Closing Question
The closing question turns the conversation into a learning that sticks — and teaches you what is actually valuable.
Close with "What was most useful for you?"
- Grow Coaching Questions
Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
- And What Else Coaching Habit
Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven questions — from "What’s on your mind?" through "What was most useful for you?" — are a practical system for coaching conversations that takes less than a minute to learn and a career to master. The framework is practitioner-derived from behavioral coaching practice; its mechanisms are grounded in autonomy support, self-determination, and the generation effect. The questions work because they shift the cognitive labor back to the person who owns the problem.
- Brief Coaching Conversations
In coaching conversations, ask "what could you do differently?" instead of "what went wrong?"
Replace performance review conversations with feedforward conversations
- Coaching Habit Challenge Question
Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven questions — from "What’s on your mind?" through "What was most useful for you?" — are a practical system for coaching conversations that takes less than a minute to learn and a career to master. The framework is practitioner-derived from behavioral coaching practice; its mechanisms are grounded in autonomy support, self-determination, and the generation effect. The questions work because they shift the cognitive labor back to the person who owns the problem.
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