Coaching practices for Fast Dbt S Skill for Maintaining Self Respect in Relationships at Work

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• I walk away from conflicts having caved again
• I "won" the argument — I got exactly what I was after — but I walked away with a sour feeling, because I got it by needling them and bending the truth, and I’m realizing whether I got my way isn’t actually the question I should be asking; it’s whether I can respect how I behaved to get it.
• Going into this hard conversation I want it all at once
• When the pressure builds in a conversation, I cave on something I actually believe in just to make the discomfort stop
• I bend over backwards to be fair to everyone else and then quietly leave myself out of the equation entirely

Practices that may help

1. FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
   FAST — Fair, Apologies (no unnecessary ones), Stick to values, Truthful — is a DBT interpersonal effectiveness skill developed by Marsha Linehan for maintaining self-respect in relationships. While DEAR MAN aims for getting what you need and GIVE aims for relationship health, FAST targets the internal cost: whether you feel like yourself and respect yourself after the interaction.
2. FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
   Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
   DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
3. Use self-respect as the outcome measure — not just whether you got what you wanted
   After any difficult interaction, ask: "Do I respect myself for how I showed up?" — not just "did I win?"
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
4. Balance FAST with DEAR MAN when the relationship and the goal are both at stake
   Use DEAR MAN for what you want, GIVE for the relationship, and FAST for yourself — and know which to weight when they conflict.
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
5. Stick to Values: act consistently with what actually matters to you
   Before compromising a position, check whether the compromise conflicts with a core value — and hold if it does.
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
6. DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
   Dialectical Behavior Therapy’s interpersonal effectiveness module gives concrete skills for asking for what you need, saying no, and managing conflict — without sacrificing either your objectives or the relationship. The DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST acronyms operationalize three distinct goals (getting results, keeping the relationship, keeping self-respect) that often pull in different directions. DBT as a whole has strong RCT evidence; the interpersonal module is integral to that evidence base.
7. DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively
   DEAR MAN — Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate — is a DBT interpersonal effectiveness skill developed by Marsha Linehan. It structures requests and refusals so they are clear, non-aggressive, and effective, balancing getting what you need with preserving the relationship. The evidence base is embedded in the broader DBT clinical literature.
8. Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
   Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
9. GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations
   GIVE — Gentle, Interested, Validate, Easy manner — is a DBT interpersonal effectiveness skill developed by Marsha Linehan for keeping relationships intact during difficult exchanges. While DEAR MAN focuses on getting what you need, GIVE focuses on how you show up so the other person remains willing to engage with you over time.
10. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
    DBT is a skills-based approach built around a balance — accepting yourself as you are while working to change — taught through four skill sets: mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness. It has strong randomized-trial support, particularly for chronic emotion dysregulation and self-harm.

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