Feelings vs Facts Worksheet: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Feelings vs Facts Worksheet, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
About 1 minute
Try it here: pick your next step from the facts
Check the facts first, then pick the option that fits what you found. Your next step should follow the facts, not the feeling alone.
After checking the facts, which option fits?
Practices that may help
- Decide on a regulation strategy based on what the facts actually show
Use the outcome of checking the facts to choose the right next step — not the same step every time.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Ask whether the emotion fits the facts
After checking, decide whether your emotion is warranted by the actual facts — not the interpretation.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Name the emotion and what triggered it
Start by identifying the emotion specifically and the event that preceded it — without mixing interpretation in.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Separate feelings from facts
Treat "I feel incompetent" as a feeling to examine, not a fact to act on.
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical - Emotional reasoning
Treat a feeling as direct evidence about external reality: "I feel like a fraud, so I must be one."
Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression - Red hat: name the emotions without justifying them
Give feelings a legitimate place in the discussion — the red hat makes emotional data explicit so it stops running covertly.
Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical - Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it
After naming an emotion on the Feeling Wheel, find where it lives in the body.
The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary - Check whether your judgment is tracking affect, not the target attribute
When a decision "just feels right," ask whether the feeling is about the actual question or about your current emotional state.
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Check the facts first
Decide whether the emotion actually fits the situation before doing anything about it.
Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge - Identify the interpretation driving the emotion
Find the specific thought or belief that is generating the emotional response — not the event, but the meaning you assigned.
Check the Facts, Made Practical
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Okay, I’ve sorted out whether the feeling fits
- I’ve looked at it from every angle and I still can’t tell whether I’m genuinely being wronged here or whether my reaction is way bigger than the situation deserves
- Something just set me off and I can’t even untangle what I’m feeling from what actually happened
- The feeling that I’m about to be exposed is so strong it just registers as fact
- I feel like a fraud, so I must be one
Related concerns
- Feelings Vs Facts
Treat "I feel incompetent" as a feeling to examine, not a fact to act on.
Separate feelings from facts
- Feelings And Facts
Treat a feeling as direct evidence about external reality: "I feel like a fraud, so I must be one."
Emotional reasoning
- Feelings Are Not Facts
Treat a feeling as direct evidence about external reality: "I feel like a fraud, so I must be one."
- Emotion Fits The Facts
Recognizing that vivid individual stories feel more compelling than identical statistics helps you allocate attention and resources more rationally.
Correct for “identified victim” over-weighting
- Feelings Vs Facts Examples
Treat a feeling as direct evidence about external reality: "I feel like a fraud, so I must be one."
- Feelings Vs Facts Psychology
Treat a feeling as direct evidence about external reality: "I feel like a fraud, so I must be one."
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