Coaching for the challenges people actually bring (page 376)
Start with what is happening in your life. Each concern below opens the closest matches from the IX Coach practice library. Showing 100 / 47301 concerns.
- Stocks and Flows as a Caregiver
Stocks and Flows · Identify the stocks before diagnosing a problem · Map your key stocks and flows + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows as a Parent
Stocks and Flows · Use flow rates as leading indicators; stocks as lagging outcomes · Identify the stocks before diagnosing a problem + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows in a New Job
Stocks and Flows · Use flow rates as leading indicators; stocks as lagging outcomes · Map your key stocks and flows + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows on a Budget
Stocks and Flows · Use flow rates as leading indicators; stocks as lagging outcomes · Map your key stocks and flows + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows When Burned Out
Build the inflow before trying to stop the outflow · Stocks and Flows · Map your key stocks and flows + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows When Starting Out
Stocks and Flows · Use flow rates as leading indicators; stocks as lagging outcomes · Build the inflow before trying to stop the outflow + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows with My Partner
Stocks and Flows · Use flow rates as leading indicators; stocks as lagging outcomes · Identify the stocks before diagnosing a problem + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices Before Bed
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Practice philosophy as a daily exercise · The Pythagorean evening examination (Hadot’s version) + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices When Overwhelmed
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Voluntary discomfort + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices with Friends
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Practice philosophy as a daily exercise + 7 more
- Stop Assuming the Worst About People
Set charitable interpretation as your cognitive default · Catch the attribution error · Remember what you can’t see + 7 more
- Stop Caring What Others Think Stoicism
Let go of others’ opinions of you · The discipline of desire · Memento mori + 7 more
- Stop Trying to Fix Peoples Problems
Withhold advice until they feel heard · Map who actually owns the problem · Give the work back without abandoning people + 7 more
- Stop Using Credit Cards Debt Payoff
Freeze new debt acquisition while the snowball is running · Celebrate each elimination event deliberately and specifically · Pay minimums on all debts, then attack the smallest with every extra dollar + 7 more
- Stop Worrying About Things You Cant Control
Sort the situation into controllables and uncontrollables · Practice letting unsolvable worries be · Postpone worry as an experiment to test controllability + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion After a Loss
Retell the story of the death and its aftermath · Construct a coherent narrative of the loss · Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion After a Setback
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion as a Caregiver
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Use concrete sensory detail, not abstract description · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion as a Parent
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary · Use concrete sensory detail, not abstract description + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion for My Teenager
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Use concrete sensory detail, not abstract description · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion in a New Job
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Lead with a character, not a point · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion When Burned Out
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary · Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion When Starting Out
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Lead with a character, not a point · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary + 7 more
- Storytelling for Persuasion with My Partner
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical · Close with a specific call to action, not a summary · Lead with a character, not a point + 7 more
- Strategic Caffeine Use After a Loss
Strategic Caffeine Use · Manage caffeine to offset debt without deepening it · Cycle off caffeine periodically to reset adenosine receptor sensitivity + 7 more
- Strategic Caffeine Use After a Setback
Strategic Caffeine Use · Cycle off caffeine periodically to reset adenosine receptor sensitivity · Manage caffeine to offset debt without deepening it + 7 more
- Strategic Caffeine Use as a Caregiver
Strategic Caffeine Use · Dose caffeine by need, not by habit · Delay your first caffeine dose 90–120 minutes after waking + 7 more
- Strategic Caffeine Use for My Teenager
Strategic Caffeine Use · Dose caffeine by need, not by habit · Cycle off caffeine periodically to reset adenosine receptor sensitivity + 7 more
- Strategic Caffeine Use in a New Job
Strategic Caffeine Use · Dose caffeine by need, not by habit · Delay your first caffeine dose 90–120 minutes after waking + 7 more
- Strategic Caffeine Use When Starting Out
Strategic Caffeine Use · Dose caffeine by need, not by habit · Delay your first caffeine dose 90–120 minutes after waking + 7 more
- Sufi Dhikr the Practice of Remembrance Before Bed
Sufi Dhikr: The Practice of Remembrance · Integrating dhikr with the five daily prayers · Understanding the goal: polishing the mirror of the heart + 7 more
- Sufi Dhikr the Practice of Remembrance with Friends
Sufi Dhikr: The Practice of Remembrance · Hadra: the Sufi dhikr ceremony · Understanding the goal: polishing the mirror of the heart + 7 more
- Superforecasting
Superforecasting · Treat forecasting accuracy as a skill that improves with practice · Reference Class Forecasting + 7 more
- Surviving a Difficult Client While Job Hunting
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations · Coping Questions · Actively maintain the belief in ultimate prevailing + 7 more
- Susokukan
Zen Koans: Inquiry Beyond Reason · Integrating the koan with seated meditation · Carrying the koan through daily life + 7 more
- Systems Thinking in a New Job
Systems Thinking for Personal Productivity · Systems Thinking · Surface and test the mental models driving behavior + 7 more
- Tactfully Avoiding Sharing Food with a Friend
Don’t make it about you · Serving from a distance, not the table · Social Discomfort: Deliberately Having the Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding + 7 more
- Tactical Empathy in a New Job
Tactical Empathy · Take their perspective accurately · Show up for the person, not just the deliverable + 7 more
- Take the Shock Out of Bad News
Avoid active-destructive responding · Respond non-punitively to mistakes · Slow down belief updates triggered by alarming news + 7 more
- Taking a Break During Argument Couples
Make small repairs during conflict -- not only big apologies after · Use a pre-agreed pause protocol · Turn toward during conflict, not just during calm + 7 more
- Taking a Break From Problem Solving
Schedule deliberate breaks to trigger unconscious constraint relaxation · Take a deliberate incubation break · Use Pomodoro breaks as mandatory diffuse switches + 7 more
- Taking Action What I Can Control
Identify the single most important lever you actually have · Habit 1: Be proactive · Sort the situation into controllables and uncontrollables + 7 more
- Talk to Yourself Like a Friend
Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk · Advise yourself as you would a friend · Warm self-talk + 7 more
- Talking to a Parent About Their Mental Health
Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience · Talk with your child about their day and interests · Build zone check-ins into the daily routine + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem Before Bed
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Offload cognitive load with a bedtime worry journal + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem When Overwhelmed
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Time-box with a visible countdown + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem with Friends
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a body double for low-initiation tasks · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold + 7 more
- Tctsy
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Use a challenging beliefs worksheet to work a stuck point completely · Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD + 7 more
- Teach a Kid to Not Run From Dogs
Allow natural consequences to do the teaching · Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule · Give clear, calm, single instructions + 7 more
- Teach the Skill Not Just the Rule
Expose examples before naming the rule (inductive first) · Accumulate varied situational episodes to move from novice to competent · Practice equity: bend general rules to particular cases + 7 more
- Telephonically Job Offer Waiting for Written Offer
Request the conversation the right way · Accompany your final offer with a small non-monetary concession · Use silence after making an offer + 7 more
- Telling a Child About a Playmate's Death
Retell the story of the death and its aftermath · Share the continuing bond in community · Construct a coherent narrative of the loss + 7 more
- Telling a Friend Why They Weren't Hired
Request the conversation the right way · Send a meaningful thank-you note · Close every informational interview with one forward step + 7 more
- Telling My Boss That I Have Tiredness Issues
Communicate your spoon count to people who need to know · Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem · Send proactive, brief status updates + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend After a Loss
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better · Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend After a Setback
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships · Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum) + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend as a Caregiver
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Tend to yourself before tending to others · Use caretaking as a mutual stress-regulation activity + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend as a Parent
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Tend to yourself before tending to others · Use caretaking as a mutual stress-regulation activity + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend for My Teenager
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Tend to yourself before tending to others · Use caretaking as a mutual stress-regulation activity + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend in a New Job
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting · Tend to yourself before tending to others + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend on a Budget
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Tend to yourself before tending to others · Weak-tie maintenance rituals + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend When Burned Out
Tend to yourself before tending to others · Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Use caretaking as a mutual stress-regulation activity + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend When Starting Out
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Tend to yourself before tending to others · Give before you take + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend with My Partner
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Make bids for shared enjoyment, not just support · Tend to yourself before tending to others + 7 more
- Tend and Befriend with My Team
Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical · Establish inclusion safety — belonging without conditions · Tend to yourself before tending to others + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory After a Loss
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Name the feeling to defuse the reflex + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory After a Setback
Debrief performances to recover from threat appraisals · Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Debrief after performance without letting relief collapse the strategy + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory as a Caregiver
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory as a Parent
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Manage your own emotional state before responding + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory for My Teenager
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory in a New Job
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory on a Budget
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory When Burned Out
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory When Starting Out
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory with My Partner
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports + 7 more
- Terror Management Theory with My Team
Terror Management Theory, Made Practical · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports · Notice and counteract mortality-driven outgroup hostility + 7 more
- Thank You Note After Informational Interview
Send a meaningful thank-you note · Close every informational interview with one forward step · Request the conversation the right way + 7 more
- That Was Then This is Now
Ground in the present when the past intrudes · The Now Habit, Made Practical · The temporal zoom-out + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule After a Loss
The 10-10-10 Rule · Pre-commit to a rule before the loss is live · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule After a Setback
The 10-10-10 Rule · Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal · Pair the rule with self-compassion, not self-criticism + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule as a Caregiver
The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule as a Parent
The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision · Use family meetings to solve problems together + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule Before Bed
The 10-10-10 Rule · Set a screen cutoff time · Anchor the wind-down with a consistent starting cue + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule for My Teenager
The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule on a Budget
The 50/30/20 Budget: A Simple Framework for Where Your Money Goes · The 10-10-10 Rule · Adjust the percentages to your cost of living and income + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule When Burned Out
Set a non-negotiable floor for each burner · The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule When Overwhelmed
The 10-10-10 Rule · Prioritize and execute · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule When Starting Out
The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision · Apply all three horizons explicitly + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule with Friends
The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule with My Partner
The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment + 7 more
- The 10 10 10 Rule with My Team
The 10-10-10 Rule · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision · Apply all three horizons explicitly + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year After a Loss
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better · Construct a coherent narrative of the loss + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year After a Setback
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Hold a weekly accountability review · Treat 12 weeks as a full year + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year as a Caregiver
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Commit to only a few goals per cycle · Hold a weekly accountability review + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year Before Bed
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Treat 12 weeks as a full year · Commit to only a few goals per cycle + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year on a Budget
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Commit to only a few goals per cycle · Treat 12 weeks as a full year + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year When Burned Out
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Treat 12 weeks as a full year · Commit to only a few goals per cycle + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year When Overwhelmed
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Treat 12 weeks as a full year · Commit to only a few goals per cycle + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year When Starting Out
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Commit to only a few goals per cycle · Treat 12 weeks as a full year + 7 more
- The 12 Week Year with Friends
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical · Commit to only a few goals per cycle · Treat 12 weeks as a full year + 7 more
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