Coaching for the challenges people actually bring (page 375)
Start with what is happening in your life. Each concern below opens the closest matches from the IX Coach practice library. Showing 100 / 47301 concerns.
- Shikantaza Just Sitting After a Setback
Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass · Grounding in posture: zazen as the foundation · Shikantaza: Just Sitting + 7 more
- Shikantaza Just Sitting as a Caregiver
Shikantaza: Just Sitting · Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass · Silent illumination: the quality of awake stillness + 7 more
- Shikantaza Just Sitting as a Parent
Shikantaza: Just Sitting · Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass · Practicing with a sangha (community sitting) + 7 more
- Shikantaza Just Sitting for My Teenager
Shikantaza: Just Sitting · Shikantaza — "just sitting" in the Soto Zen tradition · Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass + 7 more
- Shikantaza Just Sitting on a Budget
Shikantaza: Just Sitting · Shikantaza (just sitting) · Shikantaza — "just sitting" in the Soto Zen tradition + 7 more
- Shikantaza Just Sitting When Burned Out
Silent illumination: the quality of awake stillness · Shikantaza (just sitting) · Releasing the object: sitting without a focal point + 7 more
- Shikantaza Just Sitting When Starting Out
Shikantaza: Just Sitting · Grounding in posture: zazen as the foundation · Shikantaza (just sitting) + 7 more
- Shikantaza Just Sitting with My Team
Shikantaza: Just Sitting · Practicing with a sangha (community sitting) · Shikantaza (just sitting) + 7 more
- Short Term Mood Long Term Cost
Check the consequence across time horizons · Make the long-term consequences of procrastinating feel immediate · Separate the regret you’ll keep from the fear you’ll forget + 7 more
- Short Term vs Long Term Thinking
Check the consequence across time horizons · Cultivate an "acorn brain": plant what you will not harvest · Apply all three horizons explicitly + 7 more
- Short Word Prayer Cloud of Unknowing
The Cloud of Unknowing: Contemplation Beyond Concepts · Using a short word in prayer · Pressing thoughts into the cloud of forgetting + 7 more
- Should a Parent Stop Destructive Play
Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play · Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse · Refuse to energize negative behavior + 7 more
- Should I Accept This Fraudulent Job
Name the imposter pattern · Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical · Recognize and respect the ethical limits of foot-in-the-door + 7 more
- Should I Calm Down Before Performance
Match your routine’s arousal level to the task demand · Regulate emotional tone as part of performance preparation · De-activation Strategies for Over-Arousal + 7 more
- Should I Combine Ai Coaching and Human Therapy
Powerful open questions at every stage · Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW · Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments + 7 more
- Should I Force Activities on My Child
Follow the child’s lead completely during special time · Refuse to energize negative behavior · Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse + 7 more
- Should I Go Over My Job Recruiters Head
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations · Request the conversation the right way · Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to + 7 more
- Should I Invest All at Once
Make the lump-sum vs DCA decision with honest math · Dollar-cost average by investing the same amount every period regardless of market conditions · Build your emergency fund before investing + 7 more
- Should I Keep Phone Out of Bedroom
The Phone-Free Bedroom · Charge your phone outside the bedroom permanently · Use a dedicated alarm clock to remove the phone from the bedroom + 7 more
- Should I Monitor My Child's Internet Usage
Track your actual usage for one week before capping · Share your tracking data to add social accountability · Track the target behavior consistently, not selectively + 7 more
- Should I Send My Child to Kindergarten Early
Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity · Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states · Build zone check-ins into the daily routine + 7 more
- Should I Stop Investing When Market Drops
Never pause DCA during downturns — they are when it works best · Use the DCA system to override market fear · Leave it alone: resist the urge to check and trade frequently + 7 more
- Should I Teach My Kid How to Lie
Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity · Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation · Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval + 7 more
- Should I Use a Child Harness
Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits · Allow natural consequences to do the teaching · Follow the child’s lead completely during special time + 7 more
- Should You Make the First Offer
Make the first offer (when you’re informed) · Use the door-in-the-face structure in salary and price negotiations · Anchor your opening near your end of the ZOPA + 7 more
- Should You Tell People Your Goals
Public commitment · Make a public commitment to create social accountability · Report against specific, verifiable commitments + 7 more
- Sibling Entering the Parental House Without Consent
Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits · Use family meetings to solve problems together · Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior + 7 more
- Signed an Offer but Manager Not Responding
Evaluate offers on their content, not on the timing of when they arrived · Accompany your final offer with a small non-monetary concession · Propose a post-settlement settlement to optimize an agreed deal + 7 more
- Signs You Didn't Get the Job
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations · Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to · Listen for what isn’t in the job description + 7 more
- Signs You Don T Need Antidepressants
Pleasant events scheduling · Grade activity difficulty upward gradually · Anti-Inflammatory Diet for Mood, Made Practical + 7 more
- Signs You Got the Job After Interview
Close every informational interview with one forward step · Send a meaningful thank-you note · Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to + 7 more
- Signs You Should Leave Your Job
Use a 15-minute end-of-day planning buffer to close the day’s loops · Recognize and address one-more-year syndrome · Disagree with your manager constructively + 7 more
- Signs You Should Quit Your Job
Protect the shutdown time from late-day urgency · Pre-set your exit criteria · Recognize and address one-more-year syndrome + 7 more
- Signs You Will Get the Job After Interview
Close every informational interview with one forward step · Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to · Send a meaningful thank-you note + 7 more
- Signs You Will Receive Job Offer
Accompany your final offer with a small non-monetary concession · Use the door-in-the-face structure in salary and price negotiations · Request the conversation the right way + 7 more
- Single Parent Takes Many Sick Days
Day theming · Communicate your spoon count to people who need to know · Manage your own emotional state before responding + 7 more
- Situation Selection in a New Job
Situation Selection, Made Practical · Design your situation for positive emotion, not just negative avoidance · Ask: “Would I choose this today if I were starting fresh?” + 7 more
- Six Thinking Hats After a Loss
Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical · Parallel thinking drill: all hats in sequence for a real decision · Yellow hat: find genuine value and best-case scenarios + 7 more
- Six Thinking Hats for My Teenager
Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical · Parallel thinking drill: all hats in sequence for a real decision · Blue hat: manage the thinking process itself + 7 more
- Size of Favor Ben Franklin Effect
The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical · Keep asks sized to what the person can easily afford to give · Ask for a small, genuine favor from someone you want to build rapport with + 7 more
- Sleep Restriction Therapy After a Loss
Sleep Restriction Therapy · Extend sleep before an anticipated shortfall · Set a restricted sleep window equal to your actual sleep time + 7 more
- Sleep Restriction Therapy After a Setback
Sleep Restriction Therapy · Expand the sleep window by fifteen minutes when efficiency improves · Set a restricted sleep window equal to your actual sleep time + 7 more
- Sleep Restriction Therapy for My Teenager
Sleep Restriction Therapy · Set a restricted sleep window equal to your actual sleep time · Expand the sleep window by fifteen minutes when efficiency improves + 7 more
- Sleep Restriction Therapy in a New Job
Manage daytime sleepiness during the restriction phase · Sleep Restriction Therapy · Set a restricted sleep window equal to your actual sleep time + 7 more
- Sleep Restriction Therapy When Burned Out
Manage daytime sleepiness during the restriction phase · Sleep Restriction Therapy · Expand the sleep window by fifteen minutes when efficiency improves + 7 more
- Slow Living in a New Job
Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows · Use genius mapping in onboarding · Directing — high direction for the eager novice + 7 more
- Small Yeses Before the Big Ask
Start with a minimal, easy-to-agree request · Elicit a small consistency cue before the main ask · Keep the second request related to the first + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move After a Loss
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Shift goal emphasis under adversity · Revise strategy when off track, not the goal + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move After a Setback
Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal · SMART Goals That Actually Move · Revise strategy when off track, not the goal + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move as a Caregiver
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Specific — name the exact behavior or result · Sidestep the SMART pitfalls + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move Before Bed
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Specific — name the exact behavior or result · Sidestep the SMART pitfalls + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move for My Teenager
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Specific — name the exact behavior or result · Sidestep the SMART pitfalls + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move on a Budget
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Sidestep the SMART pitfalls · Specific — name the exact behavior or result + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move When Burned Out
Specific — name the exact behavior or result · Set realistic goals and chip away at them — resist "crush it" culture · Assess capability and resource margin before setting a stretch target + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move When Overwhelmed
Sidestep the SMART pitfalls · Specific — name the exact behavior or result · Revise strategy when off track, not the goal + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move When Starting Out
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Specific — name the exact behavior or result · Sidestep the SMART pitfalls + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move with Friends
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Design multifinal means — activities that serve several goals at once · Keep a visible, compelling scoreboard + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move with My Partner
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Report against specific, verifiable commitments · Specific — name the exact behavior or result + 7 more
- Smart Goals That Actually Move with My Team
SMART Goals That Actually Move · Sidestep the SMART pitfalls · Specific — name the exact behavior or result + 7 more
- Socratic Questioning in a New Job
Socratic Questioning · Conduct a genuine Socratic dialogue · The Socratic Method, Made Practical + 7 more
- Software Developer Flow Code Review and Inadequate Manager
Debrief to grow capability, not just to grade · Use Start-Stop-Keep reviews to drive continuous improvement · Adapt to your manager’s communication style + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained After a Loss
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Treating grief as a form of gratitude · Retell the story of the death and its aftermath + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained After a Setback
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Titration (work in tiny, tolerable doses) · Track body sensation (the felt sense) + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained as a Caregiver
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Track the felt sense during pendulation + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained as a Parent
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained Before Bed
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Tracking shadow material through the body + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained for My Teenager
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Titration (work in tiny, tolerable doses) + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained in a New Job
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Track the felt sense during pendulation + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained When Burned Out
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Titration (work in tiny, tolerable doses) + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained When Overwhelmed
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Titration (work in tiny, tolerable doses) · Track body sensation (the felt sense) + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained When Starting Out
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Track the felt sense during pendulation + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained with Friends
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Tracking shadow material through the body + 7 more
- Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained with My Partner
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained · Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Tracking shadow material through the body + 7 more
- Someone I Manage Keeps Cc'ing My Boss
Send proactive, brief status updates · Adapt to your manager’s communication style · Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks After a Loss
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Schedule retrieval and re-challenge with spaced repetition · Space retrieval attempts across increasing intervals + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks as a Parent
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Use spaced repetition of core ideas in teaching and coaching · Distribute practice instead of massing it + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks Before Bed
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Distribute practice instead of massing it · Space retrieval attempts across increasing intervals + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks for My Teenager
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Space reviews at increasing intervals after each successful retrieval · Distribute practice instead of massing it + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks When Burned Out
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Distribute practice instead of massing it · Space reviews at increasing intervals after each successful retrieval + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks with Friends
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Use spaced repetition of core ideas in teaching and coaching · Space retrieval attempts across increasing intervals + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks with My Partner
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Use spaced repetition of core ideas in teaching and coaching · Space retrieval attempts across increasing intervals + 7 more
- Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks with My Team
Spaced Repetition That Actually Sticks · Use spaced repetition of core ideas in teaching and coaching · Schedule retrieval and re-challenge with spaced repetition + 7 more
- Spiral Dynamics in a New Job
Avoid level-jumping: build through each stage rather than skipping · Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical · Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior + 7 more
- Start at the Edge of Story
Re-Authoring the Alternative Story · Lead with a character, not a point · Structure the story as a transformation, not a summary + 7 more
- Started New Job and Don't Like it
Ask: “Would I choose this today if I were starting fresh?” · Use genius mapping in onboarding · Modify the environment to reduce sensory aversion + 7 more
- Steal Like an Artist in Practice Before Bed
Steal Like an Artist, in Practice · Share the process, not just the result · Collect your influences deliberately + 7 more
- Steven Johnson Where Good Ideas Come From
Build a liquid network: expose yourself to people at the edge of different fields · Quantity first: generate the most ideas possible before evaluating any · Maximize quantity of ideas before evaluating + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep After a Loss
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment · Break the anxiety-about-sleep loop + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep After a Setback
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment · Pair sleep restriction with stimulus control + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep as a Parent
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep in a New Job
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep on a Budget
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep When Burned Out
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment · Break the anxiety-about-sleep loop + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep When Overwhelmed
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Break the anxiety-about-sleep loop · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep When Starting Out
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep with Friends
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Apply stimulus control to the sleep environment · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue + 7 more
- Stimulus Control for Sleep with My Team
Stimulus Control for Sleep · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue · Stimulus Control, Made Practical + 7 more
- Stimulus Control in a New Job
Stimulus Control, Made Practical · Restrict the behavior to a specific context only · Reduce cues for competing behaviors during focused periods + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows After a Loss
Build the inflow before trying to stop the outflow · Use flow rates as leading indicators; stocks as lagging outcomes · Stocks and Flows + 7 more
- Stocks and Flows After a Setback
Build the inflow before trying to stop the outflow · Respect stock momentum: do not expect fast reversals · Use flow rates as leading indicators; stocks as lagging outcomes + 7 more
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