Coaching practices for What Are You Saying No to Coaching
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep saying yes to every exciting new thing because in the moment it just feels like more good, and then I look up overcommitted and stretched thin
- I think I’m asking questions, but they’re really suggestions in disguise
- When I coach people, almost everything out of my mouth is about their body
- The people I coach leave fired up with a plan, but the first ordinary snag throws them and the whole thing quietly dies
- When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
Practices that may help
- Ask "If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
Every yes is a yes-at-the-expense-of-something — making the trade-off explicit is the most useful thing a coach can do.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Powerful open questions at every stage
Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Rewrite internal-focus coaching cues as external-focus equivalents
Audit your coaching language and convert body-focused instructions to effect-focused ones.
External Focus of Attention, Made Practical - Obstacle anticipation before close
Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People - Ask "What do you want?"
People often know what they want but haven’t said it — asking directly surfaces it and shifts from complaint to intention.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Replace performance review conversations with feedforward conversations
In coaching conversations, ask "what could you do differently?" instead of "what went wrong?"
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - The graceful no
Decline non-essential requests clearly and kindly, separating the decision from the relationship.
Essentialism, Made Practical - Generate Options before evaluating any
Brainstorm all possible paths before judging — then the coachee, not the coach, narrows them.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Close the GROW loop with session review
At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Coaching Question Before Answer
Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
Powerful open questions at every stage
- Trade Off Question Coaching
Every yes is a yes-at-the-expense-of-something — making the trade-off explicit is the most useful thing a coach can do.
Ask "If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
- And What Else Coaching Habit
Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven questions — from "What’s on your mind?" through "What was most useful for you?" — are a practical system for coaching conversations that takes less than a minute to learn and a career to master. The framework is practitioner-derived from behavioral coaching practice; its mechanisms are grounded in autonomy support, self-determination, and the generation effect. The questions work because they shift the cognitive labor back to the person who owns the problem.
- Approach Motivation Coaching
Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
Clarify the Goal with precision
- Brief Coaching Conversations
In coaching conversations, ask "what could you do differently?" instead of "what went wrong?"
Replace performance review conversations with feedforward conversations
- Coaching Closing Conversation
The closing question turns the conversation into a learning that sticks — and teaches you what is actually valuable.
Close with "What was most useful for you?"
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