Coaching practices for How to Be Authentic

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• I’m so used to managing how I come across that I’m not even sure people know the real me
• With the person closest to me I’ve fallen into playing a role, and the most real parts of me stay tucked away
• I want to be able to say the true thing in a hard conversation without either shrinking myself to keep them comfortable or steamrolling them to protect myself
• I show people the polished, competent version of me and never the messy in-progress stuff, and I’ve realized that’s exactly why even my close relationships feel oddly flat
• I’ve told my own story so many times it’s become this smooth, inevitable arc with no doubt in it

Practices that may help

1. Cultivate authenticity
   Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
   The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
2. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
   Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
3. Practice congruent communication
   Say what you feel, about what you observe, while caring for both yourself and the other person.
   The Satir Model
4. Practice calibrated self-disclosure to allow genuine connection
   Share something true about your inner experience — not performed, not calculated — to let someone in.
   Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness
5. Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel
   The over-polished version of your story creates distance; the real version creates connection.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
6. Lead with generosity, not an agenda
   Enter every networking context asking what you can give, not what you can get.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
7. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
8. Style-flex without losing authenticity
   Adapt your approach to someone else’s style without abandoning your own.
   Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate
9. Build sincerity by saying only what you mean
   Only make commitments and assertions you actually believe — and retract the ones you don’t.
   The Trust Triangle
10. Signal credibility without claiming it
    Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical

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