Coaching practices for I Showed it to People and Everyone Said They Liked it but Somehow That Told Me Nothing I Think I Was Fishing for a Thumbs Up Instead of Watching Where They Actually Got Confused and Stuck So I Walked Away with Applause and No Real Signal

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• I showed it to people and everyone said they liked it, but somehow that told me nothing
• I keep wrapping my criticism in compliments the way I was taught to, and it just isn’t working
• My feedback conversations end with the person nodding and saying "yeah, makes sense, got it"
• I want people to walk away from talking to me feeling like I really got it
• When people just tell me "you’re great" I wave it off as them being nice and it bounces right off

Practices that may help

1. Test — let users break it
   Put the prototype in front of real users and treat their confusion as data.
   Design Thinking, Step by Step
2. Understand why the sandwich fails before replacing it
   The sandwich fails because it sends three conflicting signals at once.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
3. Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
   Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
4. Reflect back what you heard
   Mirror the speaker’s feeling and content back to them so they can hear themselves accurately.
   Active Listening, Made Practical
5. Use specific verbal affirmation from credible sources
   Seek out specific, skill-referenced feedback from people who have seen you perform — not generic encouragement.
   Mastery Experiences
6. Normalize the messy process, not just the polished result
   Let people see the iterations and dead ends behind a successful outcome.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
7. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
   Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
8. Make praise as specific as criticism
   Vague praise is nearly worthless; name exactly what was good and why.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
9. Add a forward-looking request to SBI
   Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
10. Take the tap test before you present
    Literally tap out a melody and notice how obvious it is to you — but invisible to listeners.
    The Curse of Knowledge: Why Experts Struggle to Teach

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