Coaching practices for Why Vague Praise Doesn T Work

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• My praise is all vague "nice work, good stuff" while every critique I give is razor-specific
• Praise slides right off me because it feels like flattery I can’t trust, but I notice I actually relax when someone tells me the plain truth about myself
• I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
• When someone does something genuinely great I tend to file it away to mention at their review, and by the time it comes around it’s gone cold and vague
• I praise my kid constantly

Practices that may help

1. Make praise as specific as criticism
   Vague praise is nearly worthless; name exactly what was good and why.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
2. Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback
   Train yourself to want feedback that is true over feedback that feels good.
   Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
3. Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
   Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
4. One-minute praisings: specific, immediate, genuine
   Praise that names the exact behavior immediately after it occurs reinforces that behavior far more effectively than delayed or generic recognition.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
5. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
   "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
6. Understand why the sandwich fails before replacing it
   The sandwich fails because it sends three conflicting signals at once.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
7. Make the other person feel important — sincerely
   Talk to people in terms of what matters to them, and give honest, specific appreciation.
   How to Win Friends and Influence People, Made Practical
8. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
   Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
9. Make process goals behaviorally specific enough to direct attention
   A vague process goal ("try harder") is not a process goal — it must specify what to do with your body and attention.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
10. Make your beliefs precise enough to be wrong
    Vague claims cannot be falsified — sharpen your belief until it can be.
    Falsification Thinking

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