Coaching für die Herausforderungen, die Menschen wirklich mitbringen (page 60)

Rehearse the response before you need it · Ask: could you cope even if the worst happened? · Engage with the present moment + 7 more

The Digital Sabbath · Anchor the sabbath to a social commitment · Fill the void with a prepared analog activity + 7 more

Conduct a post-panic review to counter catastrophic memory · Stay in the situation for the full arc · Rehearse the response before you need it + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Report against specific, verifiable commitments · Aim for reintegration, not permanent labeling + 7 more

Reach out when stressed, not after · Map your stress response (conceptualization phase) · Practice coping under graduated real-world stress + 7 more

Use social accountability to maintain the fast · Share your tracking data to add social accountability · Accountability Partners + 7 more

The emotional eating pause — a 10-minute delay before comfort eating · Pair the enhancing mindset with genuine stress management · Reach out when stressed, not after + 7 more

Share your tracking data to add social accountability · Accountability Partners · Sharing scores with an accountability partner + 7 more

Reach out when stressed, not after · Identify and reduce what depletes your magnesium · Practice coping under graduated real-world stress + 7 more

Engineer your social environment to support the behaviors you want · Environment Design for Behavior Change · Use reciprocal determinism to change behavior by changing environment or cognition first + 7 more

Reach out when stressed, not after · Practice coping under graduated real-world stress · Prepare coping self-talk in advance + 7 more

Curate your social situation portfolio · Engineer your social environment to support the behaviors you want · Social skill + 7 more

Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others · Share tasks equitably — and feel equitable about it · Understand the constraints your manager operates under + 7 more

Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical · Reciprocate when your leader invests in you · Deliberately expand your inner circle + 7 more

Apply emotion-focused coping to uncontrollable stressors · R — Recall the hurt · Treating grief as a form of gratitude + 7 more

Definitional Ceremonies and Outsider Witnesses · Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You · Respond to identity threats without self-concept collapse + 7 more

Make extra deposits during difficult life periods · Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure) · Ask the workability question + 7 more

Use social opportunity — others who make the behavior normal · Use social norm messages to shift behavior · Engineer your social environment to support the behaviors you want + 7 more

Audit work hours against your stated priorities · Assign a theme to each day of the week · Use a 15-minute end-of-day planning buffer to close the day’s loops + 7 more

Working with attachments in the night of the senses · Don’t make gods into demons · Practice the Examen daily and briefly + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Take a structured time-out · Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure) + 7 more

Use a 30-second micro-grounding version for public settings · Set your posture before high-stakes moments · Build scripts for situation entry and transitions + 7 more

Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof · Social proof · Social Proof, Made Practical + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Disagree with your manager constructively · Fogging + 7 more

Update incrementally as evidence arrives rather than waiting for certainty · Translate beliefs into bets to reveal your true confidence · Shift from negative to positive orientation toward uncertainty + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Engage with the present moment · Allow the sensations without resisting + 7 more

Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter · Accountability Partners · Notice and question the story you’ve already told yourself + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives · Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss + 7 more

Affirm before receiving critical feedback · Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback · Establish shared purpose before delivering critique + 7 more

Adapt to your manager’s communication style · Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem · Communicate effectively with Conscientiousness-style people + 7 more

The values–behavior gap check · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment · Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ + 7 more

Treating grief as a form of gratitude · Deliberately engage loss-oriented work · Havening to soften acute grief activation + 7 more

Resolving a decision with two competing values · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment · Rank your top values + 7 more

Havening to soften acute grief activation · Create a deliberate grief window · Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it + 7 more

Values-Based Spending, Made Practical · Resolving a decision with two competing values · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment + 7 more

Engage with the present moment · Rehearse the response before you need it · Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after + 7 more

Anchor self-definition in values, not roles · Identity Priming, Made Practical · Narrative Identity, Made Practical + 7 more

Balanced, compassionate self-talk · Engage with the present moment · Ask: could you cope even if the worst happened? + 7 more

Apply the experiential processes early, behavioral ones later · Install feedback loops to track behavior and adjust · Environment Design for Behavior Change + 7 more

Apply three good things to work contexts specifically · Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately · Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior + 7 more

Values Clarification, Made Practical · Clarify the concepts you are using · Values Card Sort + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives · Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss + 7 more

Shame Resilience, Made Practical · Name shame when it is happening · Speak shame before you act from it + 7 more

Run toward the feeling · Combine worry exposure with relaxation skill · Engage with the present moment + 7 more

Map your immunity to change · Use belief and community to make change stick · Flip the default in the direction you want to move + 7 more

Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical · Social skill · Emotional Agility, Made Practical + 7 more

Identify and challenge catastrophic threat appraisals · Set realistic expectations before each exposure · Run toward the feeling + 7 more

Set realistic expectations before each exposure · Reframe from "preventing catastrophe" to "coping with discomfort" · Identify and challenge catastrophic threat appraisals + 7 more

Pair the enhancing mindset with genuine stress management · Adopt the "stress-is-enhancing" mindset · Make extra deposits during difficult life periods + 7 more

The Pre-Sleep Worry Buffer · Schedule a worry time earlier in the day · Break the anxiety-about-sleep loop + 7 more

Using noting to interrupt rumination · Use absorbing activities to exit rumination · Counting distraction during havening + 7 more

Move from terror management to mortality acceptance · Deliberate mortality reflection · Invest in close relationships as a mortality buffer + 7 more

Move from terror management to mortality acceptance · Examining the fear of death philosophically · Deliberate mortality reflection + 7 more

Rehearse the response before you need it · Drop the safety behaviors · Run toward the feeling + 7 more

Weekly planning · Identify and schedule big rocks at the start of each week · Create an ideal week template + 7 more

Convert comparison to curiosity · Envy inventory — mapping where comparison suffering lives · Reframing social comparison into shared gain + 7 more

Reviewing the Results and Extracting the Learning · Bayesian Thinking: How to Update Beliefs Rationally · Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo + 7 more

Move from terror management to mortality acceptance · Invest in close relationships as a mortality buffer · Deliberate mortality reflection + 7 more

Identify compatible interests for joint gain · Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take · Add issues to expand the pie + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Engage with the present moment · Run toward the feeling + 7 more

Imagine losing your work or income · Treat money as a behavior problem, not a knowledge problem · Make extra deposits during difficult life periods + 7 more

Age your money · Imagine losing your work or income · Treat money as a behavior problem, not a knowledge problem + 7 more

The Shared Meaning System · Create and protect rituals of connection · Invest meaning in shared symbols and objects + 7 more

Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it · Treating grief as a form of gratitude · Deliberately engage loss-oriented work + 7 more

Find a community that recognises your specific loss · Treating grief as a form of gratitude · Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it + 7 more

Reflect to turn experience into lessons · Test your updated model in new situations · Plan a concrete experiment to test your new principle + 7 more

Interoceptive awareness · Interoceptive exposure for physical anxiety sensations · Add interoceptive rungs for bodily fear + 7 more

Use precommitment devices to compensate for low motivation · Track procrastination episodes to identify patterns, not to judge yourself · Break the shame-avoidance loop with a timed re-entry + 7 more

Interoceptive awareness · Interoceptive exposure for physical anxiety sensations · Engage with the present moment + 7 more

Focus on interests, not positions · Distinguish substantive, procedural, and psychological interests · Ask "why" before proposing any solution + 7 more

Send proactive, brief status updates · Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure + 7 more

Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application · Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice · Label emotions during conflict to reduce escalation + 7 more

Avoiding anti-ideal confirmation: the sculpting that harms · Holding onto yourself under relational pressure · Moving from other-validation to self-validation + 7 more

Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill · Rate the intensity, not just the type · Granular labeling: move from broad to specific emotion words + 7 more

Give yourself permission to feel · Replace defensiveness with partial responsibility · Avoiding anti-ideal confirmation: the sculpting that harms + 7 more

Environment Design for Behavior Change · Engineer your social environment to support the behaviors you want · Choice Architecture, Made Practical + 7 more

Convert comparison to curiosity · Give yourself permission to feel · Create and protect the couple bubble + 7 more

Create and protect the couple bubble · Give yourself permission to feel · Cultivating complicity: shared secret aliveness + 7 more

Steal, steal, then remix · Choose low-agenda, high-curiosity destinations · Deliberately limit your resources + 7 more

Outsource or delegate to keep a burner lit without your direct fuel · Oscillate between effort and recovery · Match coping mode to what is actually controllable + 7 more

Cultivate presence · The attitudes of mindfulness · Entering the present moment + 7 more

Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person · Imagine losing your work or income · Deliberately engage loss-oriented work + 7 more

Building character through deliberate repetition · Choose a character role model and study their biography · Name and wrestle with your besetting weakness + 7 more

Make extra deposits during difficult life periods · Imagine losing your work or income · Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person + 7 more

Build and work a target list of roles and organisations · Outsource or delegate to keep a burner lit without your direct fuel · Build energy rituals that automate oscillation + 7 more

Effective Delegation, Made Practical · Structured delegation for Q3 tasks · Match the task to the person + 7 more

Make extra deposits during difficult life periods · Pair the enhancing mindset with genuine stress management · The Stress Response Cycle: How to Discharge Stress, Not Just Remove the Stressor + 7 more

Flow: Engineering the State of Total Absorption · Flow Triggers, Made Practical · Protect the ramp-up time + 7 more

Pair the enhancing mindset with genuine stress management · Daily stress downshift rituals · Make extra deposits during difficult life periods + 7 more

Cooling-off and waiting rules · Building in a spending pause · The 24-hour pause on non-essential purchases + 7 more

Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard · Shame-attacking exercises · Update the self-concept incrementally + 7 more

The one-task rule · Single-tasking on purpose · Adopt a strict single-tasking protocol + 7 more

Interoceptive awareness · Make context-specific cards for your highest-trigger situations · Reframe from "preventing catastrophe" to "coping with discomfort" + 7 more

Take notes in the Q&A format, not verbatim · Record: capture main ideas, not verbatim transcripts · Cornell Note-Taking: A System for Learning, Not Just Recording + 7 more

Use a shutdown ritual · Use the unschedule: schedule leisure before work · Protect one full day each week + 7 more

Trade across issues where each side has different priorities · Logroll by trading issues of unequal importance · Trade across differing priorities + 7 more

Exposure and response prevention (ERP) for OCD-like patterns · Engage with the present moment · Map your safety-behavior inventory + 7 more

Shame vs. Guilt: Why the Distinction Changes Everything · Label whether you feel shame or guilt · Use empathy — not sympathy — to interrupt shame in others + 7 more

Behavioral confirmation audit: how are you treating your partner? · Be a source of relief, not reactivation · Shift from one-person to two-person psychology + 7 more

Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises · Practice letting go of hypothetical worries · Postpone the thought — do not suppress it + 7 more