Notice when your conditions have changed and your usual fix stops working
Check whether the conditions of your life have shifted, and whether the way you have been coping still solves the problems in front of you.
Warum es wirkt
Graves’s own opening says people tend to change their psychology as the conditions of their existence change, and that values and ways of living which were good for a person at one period are no longer good because those conditions have changed. He describes people recognizing that the old values no longer fit before they have understood the new ones. That this is why the change often feels like a loss of footing is this page’s reading of that passage, not a claim Graves makes.
So gehst du vor
- Write down the two or three situations at work or at home where your usual approach has gone wrong most recently.
- For each one, ask what changed around you: a new responsibility, a new person in your life, or a support you no longer have.
- Mark the habitual responses you keep reaching for even though they no longer fix anything.
- Choose the situation where the change is clearest, and write one sentence naming the problem that now needs solving.
Evidenz
The statement is in the reprint’s unindented opening, which is not among the passages the reprint marks as heavily edited by Ed Cornish. It describes a general tendency. It is not a tested prediction, and it is not a measure of when conditions have changed. (anecdotal)
The 1970 article is cited for its existence only; its text was not read. The book is cited for its compilation status only. The checklist is this page’s own method for applying the idea, not a procedure Graves tested.
Quellen
- Graves, C. W. (1970). Levels of existence: An open system theory of values. Journal of Humanistic Psychology, 10(2), 131–155.
- Graves, C. W. (1974). Human nature prepares for a momentous leap. The Futurist, pp. 72–87. Reprint edited with embedded comments by Edward Cornish.
- Graves, C. W. (2005). The never ending quest: Dr. Clare W. Graves explores human nature (C. C. Cowan & N. Todorovic, Eds.). ECLET Publishing. ISBN 0-9724742-1-8.
Häufiger Fehler
Reading the stall as a failure of effort, and pushing harder on the approach that was tuned to conditions that have already moved.
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Weitere Übungen für Clare Graves’s Emergent, Cyclical Theory of Adult Development
- Name the new problem your last solution has opened up
After you resolve a problem, write down the next one that the freed-up time or energy is now showing you.
- Tell apart having the capacity from having worked through your current problems
Separate knowing you could handle a bigger role from having solved the problems of the one you hold now, and notice whether the old fixes are already breaking down.
- Expect a dissonance phase and plan for it during a shift
Name which part of a change you are in, and plan support for the dip that usually comes before a new way of living settles in.
- Judge a sudden change by the problem it solves, not how it looks
Before calling a change in yourself or someone else a breakdown, ask what problem the new way of living is handling.
- Fit your response to the level someone is operating from
When someone does not respond to your approach, ask what they need from their current way of living before trying to change what they believe.
- Name the gap between what a role asks and what you can do now
List what your role expects, and mark honestly which expectations you can meet from where you stand today.
Verwandte Konzepte
- Spiral Dynamics, praktisch angewendet
Verstehen, wie sich Wertesysteme entwickeln, und wie man zwischen ihnen navigiert
- Ego Development Theory: What It Is and How It Is Measured
The frame you make meaning through, how researchers measure it, and how to work with it without ranking anyone
- Terri O’Fallon’s STAGES Model, Made Practical
Twelve stages built from three repeating questions, and how to work with the one you are in
- Torbert’s Seven Action Logics of Leadership
Seven ways leaders make sense of pressure, how common each is, and how to work with your own
- Kegans Subjekt-Objekt-Theorie, praktisch erklärt
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