Coaching practices for How to Deal Politely with People Asking About Your Job but Unable to Understand it
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- I want to message someone in a field I’m curious about, but I freeze on what to even say
- I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
- Someone asks "so what are you looking for?" and I ramble out something vague and apologetic
- When I try to explain this to someone who knows nothing about it and they keep asking "but why does that happen?" at exactly the spots I’d normally skate over, I get stuck and exposed
- When I talk to people in the field they give me the polished official version, and I walk away no clearer on what the day-to-day actually feels like
Practices that may help
- Request the conversation the right way
A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Practise your story before you need it
Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Third-party explanation test
Explain the concept to a person who knows nothing about it and let their questions expose your gaps.
Illusion of Explanatory Depth: You Know Less Than You Think - Listen for what isn’t in the job description
Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Share advice with permission (ask–offer–ask)
Ask what they know, offer information with consent, then ask what they make of it.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Protect face in high-context interactions
Avoid putting high-context communicators in a position where they must refuse or admit difficulty publicly.
High-Context and Low-Context Communication - Assert your request or refusal directly and specifically
Ask for exactly what you want or say no — without hedging, hinting, or burying the request.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - Ask what the audience already knows before explaining
Probe prior knowledge explicitly rather than assuming it.
The Curse of Knowledge: Why Experts Struggle to Teach - Actively seek feedback on your blind spots
Ask specifically for what others see that you might not — with enough specificity to get honest answers.
The Johari Window
Related concerns
- How To Request Informational Interview
End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
Close every informational interview with one forward step
- Alternative To Providing Individuals References During Job Application
Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
- How To Do An Informational Interview
An informational interview is a low-stakes conversation with someone in a role or field you’re curious about — you ask questions, they share experience, and no job is on the table. Richard Bolles’s What Color Is Your Parachute? popularised this as a career research tool; the evidence is largely observational and practitioner, but it consistently shows that direct conversation with insiders produces better career decisions and unexpected referrals.
- How To Get Information About Job Im Interviewing For From Friend Who Already Works There
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
- In An Interview How To Ask About Access To Internal Job Postings
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
- Informational Interview Email Template
A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
Request the conversation the right way
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