Coaching practices for Noticing What Children Are Doing Right
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- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- There are certain moments
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
- I praise my kid constantly
Practices that may help
- Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Advanced noting — noting the act of noting itself
Turn attention to the process of noting itself, observing who is doing the labeling and whether the "noter" is also a mental event.
Noting Practice, Made Practical - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Build zone check-ins into the daily routine
Asking "what zone are you in?" regularly makes zone awareness automatic rather than crisis-only.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - The Formula First-Session Task and Between-Session Noticing
Assign between-session observation tasks that direct attention toward what’s already working.
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
Related concerns
- When Natural Logical Consequences Encouragement Not Praise
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Behavioral Parent Training Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Character Recognition Parenting
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
- Contribution Praise Children
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Encourage specific contributions and efforts
- How Do You Tell Your Child They Are Terrible At Something
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
- How To Keep The Question Asking Nature Of Your Kid
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Talk with your child about their day and interests
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