Coaching for the challenges people actually bring (page 346)
Start with what is happening in your life. Each concern below opens the closest matches from the IX Coach practice library. Showing 100 / 47301 concerns.
- Productive Failure How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective After a Loss
Productive Failure: How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective · Just-in-time instruction · Attempt before instruction + 7 more
- Productive Failure How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective as a Caregiver
Productive Failure: How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective · Attempt before instruction · Just-in-time instruction + 7 more
- Productive Failure How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective Before Bed
Productive Failure: How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective · Just-in-time instruction · Attempt before instruction + 7 more
- Productive Failure How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective When Starting Out
Productive Failure: How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective · Attempt before instruction · Just-in-time instruction + 7 more
- Project Manager Asks for Complete 100 Confidence Everytime Committing Code
Forecast a distribution, not a point estimate · Take the outside view (base rates) · Ask 'What am I missing?' before major decisions + 7 more
- Prolonged Exposure Therapy Principles Practices and the Evidence During Conflict
Prolonged Exposure Therapy: Principles, Practices, and the Evidence · Process cognitions after an exposure session · Use controlled breathing to manage arousal during exposure + 7 more
- Prolonged Exposure Therapy Principles Practices and the Evidence Under Stress
Prolonged Exposure Therapy: Principles, Practices, and the Evidence · Use controlled breathing to manage arousal during exposure · Process cognitions after an exposure session + 7 more
- Psychological Reactance Working with the Push Back Reflex for My Teenager
Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex · Name the resistance out loud · Catch the boomerang effect in yourself + 7 more
- Psychological Reactance Working with the Push Back Reflex When Starting Out
Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex · Name the resistance out loud · Roll with resistance instead of fighting it + 7 more
- Pu Taoist Simplicity and the Uncarved Block During Conflict
Pu: Taoist Simplicity and the Uncarved Block · Return to simplicity · Pu — simplicity and the uncarved block + 7 more
- Pu Taoist Simplicity and the Uncarved Block Under Stress
Pu: Taoist Simplicity and the Uncarved Block · Return to simplicity · Returning to essentials when overwhelmed + 7 more
- Radical Openness the Ro Dbt Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness as a Parent
Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness · Learn to distinguish necessary control from overcontrol · Receive feedback without defending or dismissing + 7 more
- Rain Meditation Tara Brach S Four Step Practice at Work
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice · After RAIN: resting in natural, open awareness · Mini-RAIN: a 2-minute version for mid-day use + 7 more
- Rain Meditation Tara Brach S Four Step Practice During Conflict
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice · After RAIN: resting in natural, open awareness · Mini-RAIN: a 2-minute version for mid-day use + 7 more
- Rain Meditation Tara Brach S Four Step Practice Under Stress
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice · After RAIN: resting in natural, open awareness · Mini-RAIN: a 2-minute version for mid-day use + 7 more
- Re Marriage of My Father to His Ex Wife a K a My Step Mom
Reconstruct your identity post-loss · Speak or write to the person directly · Write a letter to your future descendants + 7 more
- Received Broken Gift at Workplace From the Company What Should I Do
Decide deliberately whether and how to deliver each letter · Recognize when reciprocity is being used against you · Make the gift personal and unexpected + 7 more
- Received Job Offer Restricting Cell Phone Use Permitting Workspace Searches is This Normal
Separate your phone physically during deep work · Use a dumb-phone or phone-free period during a defined daily window · Conduct a device audit: one use case, one device + 7 more
- Recommending My Wife for a Job at My Workplace
Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem · Push recommendations up, not problems · Ask for their expertise or opinion — not just their help + 7 more
- Recruiter Demanding I Sign Dodgy Paperwork After Joining Job
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations · Recognize and respect the ethical limits of foot-in-the-door · Expand your role through extra-role behavior + 7 more
- Red Teaming Stress Testing Plans Before They Fail After a Loss
Combine the pre-mortem with red team pressure · Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail · Require the plan to change, not just the risk register + 7 more
- Red Teaming Stress Testing Plans Before They Fail as a Caregiver
Combine the pre-mortem with red team pressure · Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail · Map and stress-test your key assumptions + 7 more
- Red Teaming Stress Testing Plans Before They Fail Before Bed
Combine the pre-mortem with red team pressure · Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail · Map and stress-test your key assumptions + 7 more
- Regulatory Focus Theory Promotion vs Prevention Thinking After a Loss
Regulatory Focus Theory: Promotion vs Prevention Thinking · Recover promotion-focus motivation through approach-reminders after setbacks · Frame precision and safety-critical goals as losses to prevent + 7 more
- Regulatory Focus Theory Promotion vs Prevention Thinking After a Setback
Regulatory Focus Theory: Promotion vs Prevention Thinking · Recover promotion-focus motivation through approach-reminders after setbacks · Deliberately induce the right focus before high-stakes tasks + 7 more
- Regulatory Focus Theory Promotion vs Prevention Thinking When Burned Out
Regulatory Focus Theory: Promotion vs Prevention Thinking · Identify your dominant regulatory focus in a given domain · Deliberately induce the right focus before high-stakes tasks + 7 more
- Relationship Dealing with Different Views About Spending Money Who Should Pay for What
Run an annual values-spending alignment review · Define your Rich Life before designing your spending · Correctly separate needs from wants + 7 more
- Rent Alone Eats Almost Half My Take Home So When I Try to Follow the Standard Split I End Up Feeling Like a Failure Before I Even Start the Tidy Percentages Just Don't Bend to the Reality of What Living Here Actually Costs Me
Adjust the percentages to your cost of living and income · Calculate where your money actually goes before setting targets · Negotiate the big wins instead of clipping coupons + 7 more
- Returning to the Workplace After Sexual Harassment and Arrest of Harasser
Ensure participation is voluntary for all parties · Aim for reintegration, not permanent labeling · Ask the three restorative questions + 7 more
- Reward Prediction Error Using Dopamine Science to Stay Motivated at Work
Reward Prediction Error: Using Dopamine Science to Stay Motivated · Reward progress intermittently rather than every time · Protect your rewards from overexposure + 7 more
- Right After Lunch I Sink Straight Into the Couch or My Desk Chair and the Heavy Sluggish Slump Hits Like Clockwork and I'm Looking for the Smallest Possible Thing I Could Do in Those Few Minutes After Eating to Not Feel So Wiped
Take a 10-minute walk within 30 minutes of eating · Time naps to the circadian dip · Use short walking bouts for energy and mood + 7 more
- Right at the Moment I Need to Commit and Execute My Mind is Still Half Cluttered with Second Guessing and Stray Thoughts There's No Clean Line Where Prep Ends and Full Focus Begins So I Start While Still Distracted
Install a focus cue as the final routine step · Use a capture system to close open loops · Close loops deliberately to reduce mental clutter + 7 more
- Right Before I Sit This Voice Says What's Even the Point This Probably Doesn't Work for Someone Like Me and That Single Thought is Enough to Make Me Not Bother at All So I Just Keep Not Practicing
Working with doubt (vicikiccha) · Quieting the commentary track · Sing the thought: defusion through altered delivery + 7 more
- Right Before Something Big My Nerve Drains Out and I Forget I've Ever Done This Well I Want to Step Back Into One of My Best Past Performances So Vividly Beforehand That the Confidence is Already There When the Pressure Tries to Take it
Use mastery imagery to build confidence before high-stakes performances · Mental rehearsal of outcomes · Include a brief process imagery step in your routine + 7 more
- Right Before Something Nerve Wracking I Want a Quick Body Based Way to Feel a Notch More Sure of Myself but I Don't Want to Strike Some Silly Superhero Pose Just to Know Whether Simply Standing Tall and Open Actually Nudges My Own Confidence at All
Adopt expansive posture to shift subjective confidence · Set your posture before high-stakes moments · Reset to an upright, open posture + 7 more
- Right Before the Big Moment I'm Wired and Shaking and I Keep Telling Myself to Calm Down and Relax Which Never Works and Just Makes Me More Frantic That I Can't Fighting the Nerves is Its Own Losing Battle
Reappraise anxiety as excitement before high-stakes performance · Reappraise physiological arousal as activation, not anxiety · Recalibrate arousal as readiness, not threat + 7 more
- Right in the Middle of a Good Moment a Thought Pipes Up This Won't Last I Should Be Working I Don't Deserve This and I Get Pulled Into Arguing with it Which Yanks Me Out of the Very Thing I Was Enjoying
Catching the kill-joy thoughts · Keep a task-unrelated thought log · Savoring the present moment + 7 more
- Right in the Thick of a Stressful Moment My Mind Goes Tunnel Vision and I React on Pure Impulse Before I've Thought Anything Through I Need Something Simple and Familiar I Can Run in Those Few Seconds to Break the Reactivity and Get My Head Back Before I Respond
Use the prayer as a real-time triage tool in high-stress moments · The three-minute breathing space · T — Take a Step Back: Create Physical and Mental Space + 7 more
- Right Now I'm Not Just Feeling the Anxiety I Am the Anxiety It's Flooded the Whole of Me and There's No Me Left Standing Apart From it to Even Look at it I Need Just a Sliver of Space From This So I Can Be with it Instead of Being Swallowed by it
Unblend from a part to access Self · Strengthen the observing self · Name it to tame it (affect labeling) + 7 more
- Right When I'm Finally Locked in My Brain Throws Up Remember to Email So and So and If I Act on it the Focus is Shattered but If I Try to Ignore it the Thought Just Gets Louder and Keeps Tugging Until I Deal with it
Keep an attention capture list during hyperfocus · Capture distracting impulses to stay in focus without suppressing them · Keep a task-unrelated thought log + 7 more
- Sars Cov2 When Conflict Arises Over Wearing Masks What Should I Say
Competing (assertive, uncooperative) · Accommodating (cooperative, unassertive) · Be Truthful: no lies, no exaggerations, no manufactured helplessness + 7 more
- Satisficing vs Maximizing When Good Enough Wins at Work
Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins · Satisfice instead of maximize · Satisfice: set a good-enough threshold and stop searching when you hit it + 7 more
- Satisficing vs Maximizing When Good Enough Wins During Conflict
Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins · Satisfice instead of maximize · Adopt satisficing instead of maximizing + 7 more
- Saying No to Doing My Coworker's Task on His Day Off
Say no by reference to your priorities, not your schedule · Protect one full day each week · The graceful no + 7 more
- Schizophrenia in the Workplace What Reasonable Accommodations Could the Afflicted Ask for
Communicate your spoon count to people who need to know · Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Communicate your schedule mode to collaborators + 7 more
- Seeking Guidance on Collaborative Targets with a Colleague Unaccustomed to Teamwork
Use Collaborating when the relationship and the solution both matter · Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in · Find mutual purpose + 7 more
- Self Distancing Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems at Work
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems · Give yourself advice as if advising a close friend · Self-Distancing Journaling + 7 more
- Self Distancing Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems During Conflict
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems · Separate the person from the problem · Self-Distancing Journaling + 7 more
- Self Distancing Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems Under Stress
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems · Self-Distancing Journaling · Zoom out in time + 7 more
- Self Efficacy Building the Belief You Can at Work
Build mastery experiences · Self-Efficacy: Building the Belief You Can · Build self-efficacy through mastery experiences + 7 more
- Self Efficacy Building the Belief You Can During Conflict
Build mastery experiences · Self-Efficacy: Building the Belief You Can · Build self-efficacy through mastery experiences + 7 more
- Self Efficacy Building the Belief You Can Under Stress
Build mastery experiences · Self-Efficacy: Building the Belief You Can · Build self-efficacy through mastery experiences + 7 more
- Self Expansion Model How Relationships Grow and Stagnate Us After a Loss
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us · Do novel, moderately challenging activities together · Pursue personal growth that you share — not parallel but joint + 7 more
- Self Expansion Model How Relationships Grow and Stagnate Us Before Bed
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us · Pursue personal growth that you share — not parallel but joint · Do novel, moderately challenging activities together + 7 more
- Self Expansion Model How Relationships Grow and Stagnate Us on a Budget
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us · Pursue personal growth that you share — not parallel but joint · Audit current relationships for expansion rate + 7 more
- Self Expansion Model How Relationships Grow and Stagnate Us When Burned Out
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us · Audit current relationships for expansion rate · Do novel, moderately challenging activities together + 7 more
- Self Handicapping Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup at Work
Self-Handicapping: Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup · Build genuine self-efficacy to eliminate the motive · Recognize the self-handicapping pattern in yourself + 7 more
- Self Handicapping Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup During Conflict
Self-Handicapping: Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup · Recognize the self-handicapping pattern in yourself · Build genuine self-efficacy to eliminate the motive + 7 more
- Self Havening Calming the Nervous System Through Touch at Work
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch · Face havening · Arm havening stroke + 7 more
- Self Havening Calming the Nervous System Through Touch During Conflict
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch · Face havening · Arm havening stroke + 7 more
- Self Inquiry Ramana Maharshi S Path of Direct Investigation During Conflict
Self-Inquiry: Ramana Maharshi’s Path of Direct Investigation · Use surrender as a complement to inquiry · The basic self-inquiry: tracing the "I"-thought to its source + 7 more
- Self Regulated Learning Taking Control of How You Learn at Work
Self-Regulated Learning: Taking Control of How You Learn · Learning environment design · Run a plan-monitor-evaluate loop + 7 more
- Self Regulated Learning Taking Control of How You Learn During Conflict
Self-Regulated Learning: Taking Control of How You Learn · Learning environment design · Metacognitive regulation + 7 more
- Self Regulated Learning Taking Control of How You Learn Under Stress
Learning environment design · Self-Regulated Learning: Taking Control of How You Learn · Overlearn skills that must survive pressure + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion After a Loss
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Use positive emotions to restore self-control capacity · Respond to willpower failures with self-compassion + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion After a Setback
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Invoke the possible self during setbacks · Respond to willpower failures with self-compassion + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion as a Caregiver
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Become aware of your own emotional reactions first · Co-regulate by naming your own zone first + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion as a Parent
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Manage your own emotional state before responding · Co-regulate by naming your own zone first + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion for My Teenager
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Manage your own emotional state before responding · Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion in a New Job
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Learning environment design · Reduce daily decisions to protect self-control + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion on a Budget
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Reduce daily decisions to protect self-control · Learning environment design + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion When Burned Out
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Take recovery breaks before willpower is exhausted · Reduce daily decisions to protect self-control + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion When Starting Out
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Learning environment design · Build psychological capability through knowledge and practice + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion with My Partner
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Shift from one-person to two-person psychology · Reduce daily decisions to protect self-control + 7 more
- Self Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion with My Team
Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion · Learning environment design · Align around collective results, not individual status + 7 more
- Self Worth vs Self Esteem in a New Job
Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem · Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard · Practice worth-independent-of-achievement + 7 more
- Senior Coworker Took Offense at a Joke Now Despises Me
Use self-deprecating humor — selectively · Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior · Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up + 7 more
- Shamatha the Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding at Work
Shamatha: The Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding · Balance torpor and agitation · Let the mind settle of its own accord + 7 more
- Shamatha the Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding During Conflict
Shamatha: The Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding · Let the mind settle of its own accord · Balance torpor and agitation + 7 more
- Shamatha the Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding Under Stress
Shamatha: The Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding · Balance torpor and agitation · Let the mind settle of its own accord + 7 more
- Should I Admit That I Didn't Meet a Deadline Due to Stress From Personal Issues
Set external accountability deadlines · Self-imposed deadlines · Use structured self-compassion after delay — not self-criticism + 7 more
- Should I Feel Guilty for Calling Out of Work
Self-forgive immediately after procrastinating · Label whether you feel shame or guilt · Check your motivation before the act + 7 more
- Should I Feel Obligated to Work Extra Hours Because of Project Mismanagement
Schedule buffers as first-class commitments · Prevent Q1 crises through Q2 investment · Set external accountability deadlines + 7 more
- Should I Have Concern for My Previous Workplace When Considering a New Job
Ask: “Would I choose this today if I were starting fresh?” · Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting · Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to + 7 more
- Should I Include a Career Objective on My Resume
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations · Practise your story before you need it · Request the conversation the right way + 7 more
- Should I Send Coworker Reminder Email If He Forgot to Do Something
Batch all reactive tasks into defined windows · Treat email as a pull channel, not a push channel · Signal clearly when you’re done with a request before moving on + 7 more
- Should I Tell My Boss the Work He Did Was Worthless
Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem · The usefulness of apparent uselessness · Practice worth-independent-of-achievement + 7 more
- Should I Tell My Partner My Honest Opinion About Her Career Choice
Advise yourself as you would a friend · Behavioral confirmation audit: how are you treating your partner? · Share your own inner world to build the map reciprocally + 7 more
- Should I Tell My Workplace That I M Thinking of Quitting
Public commitment · Disagree with your manager constructively · Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem + 7 more
- Showing Someone You Are Interested in a Relationship but Not Ready to Send Nude
Eyes-open intimacy: contact without merger · Talking about desire without killing it · Share your own inner world to build the map reciprocally + 7 more
- Signs You Are Being Set Up to Fail at Work
Build an anti-goal checklist · Turn top risks into tripwires · Separate competence from performance + 7 more
- Signs You Re Not Really in Love with Your Partner
Imagine the absence of a key relationship · Build a culture of genuine appreciation as a horsemen antidote · The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly + 7 more
- Simple Heuristics Gerd Gigerenzer S Case for Fast and Frugal Thinking at Work
Simple Heuristics: Gerd Gigerenzer’s Case for Fast and Frugal Thinking · Build your personal adaptive toolbox of domain-specific rules · Match your heuristic to the structure of the environment + 7 more
- Since I Started This One Habit a Couple of Other Good Things Have Started Happening on Their Own and I Don't Want to Just Assume They'll Keep Going I Want to Catch Those Ripples Early and Help Them Set Before They Fade
Watch for the downstream ripples · Engineer cues for habits you want · Locate your single highest-leverage habit + 7 more
- Since They Died the Whole Ground I Stood on is Gone I Used to Believe the World Was Basically Safe and Fair and That the People I Love Would Be Here and Now I Can't Tell Which of Those Beliefs is Even Still Standing
Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted · Stable ground inquiry: what has not changed? · Examine your worldview for death-anxiety imports + 7 more
- Sitting Down to Organize My Notes as a Separate Task Feels Like Dead Unmotivated Busywork but When I'm Actually Writing Something and Reach for a Note for a Specific Paragraph I Suddenly Care Exactly Which Part of it Matters I Want the Tidying to Ride Along with the Real Work Not Be Its Own Dreary Chore
Use retroactive processing: refine as you create · Write from your notes, bottom-up · Know when not to process: most notes are fine as-is + 7 more
- Sleep Banking Building a Buffer Before Sleep Loss at Work
Sleep Banking: Building a Buffer Before Sleep Loss · Extend sleep before an anticipated shortfall · Use weekend recovery sleep — but limit the overshoot + 7 more
- Sleep Banking Building a Buffer Before Sleep Loss During Conflict
Sleep Banking: Building a Buffer Before Sleep Loss · Extend sleep before an anticipated shortfall · Treat sleep as your primary resilience deposit + 7 more
- Sleep Banking Building a Buffer Before Sleep Loss Under Stress
Sleep Banking: Building a Buffer Before Sleep Loss · Extend sleep before an anticipated shortfall · Treat sleep as your primary resilience deposit + 7 more
- Sleep Hygiene That Actually Moves the Needle at Work
Sleep Hygiene That Actually Moves the Needle · Build a wind-down buffer before bed · Build a no-work buffer in the final 60 minutes + 7 more
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