Coaching practices for What to Listen for Career Conversations

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• When I talk to people in the field they give me the polished official version, and I walk away no clearer on what the day-to-day actually feels like
• I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
• In these conversations I fire off question after question like an interrogation, and the other person closes up rather than opening
• The conversation goes great and then it just...
• Someone asks "so what are you looking for?" and I ramble out something vague and apologetic

Practices that may help

1. Listen for what isn’t in the job description
   Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
2. Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
   Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
3. Use OARS to make the person feel understood
   Open questions, Affirmations, Reflections, Summaries — the four core micro-skills.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
4. Close every informational interview with one forward step
   End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
5. Practise your story before you need it
   Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
6. Follow the speaker’s thread, not your own
   Resist the urge to steer the conversation toward what you find interesting or important.
   Reflective Listening: The Carl Rogers Method
7. Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
   An informational interview is a low-stakes conversation with someone in a role or field you’re curious about — you ask questions, they share experience, and no job is on the table. Richard Bolles’s What Color Is Your Parachute? popularised this as a career research tool; the evidence is largely observational and practitioner, but it consistently shows that direct conversation with insiders produces better career decisions and unexpected referrals.
8. Active Listening, Made Practical
   Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
9. Spend real time on growth, not just tasks
   Regularly leave the weeds and talk about career, skills, and where they’re headed.
   Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
10. Listen to understand, not to load your response
    Most managers listen while mentally composing their reply — real coaching listening is for understanding, not rebuttal-preparation.
    The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm

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