Coaching für die Herausforderungen, die Menschen wirklich mitbringen (page 72)

Building Resilience, Made Practical · The Resilience Bank Account, Made Practical · Build resources proactively during good periods as inoculation + 7 more

Competing (assertive, uncooperative) · Oblique Strategies, Made Practical · Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in + 7 more

Oblique Strategies, Made Practical · Activate peripheral vision to shift from threat mode to open-awareness · Recognise stress-driven backup behaviour + 7 more

Extend trust deliberately to invite it · Have explicit trust conversations when trust is at stake · Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages + 7 more

Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical · Sequencing focused attention and open monitoring · Choiceless awareness — resting without an object + 7 more

The 4 Disciplines of Execution (4DX) · Run a weekly accountability session · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter + 7 more

Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical · Meeting emotion in open presence · Sequencing focused attention and open monitoring + 7 more

Audit your time against your values · Values-based scheduling · Check action against stated values — the alignment review + 7 more

Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical · Sequencing focused attention and open monitoring · Expand: widen awareness back to body and situation + 7 more

Practice confidence interval estimation · Estimate in ranges, not point estimates · Calibration Training + 7 more

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical · Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical · Build an achievement file + 7 more

Score your own past predictions to calibrate your outside-view use · Calibration Training · Build calibration reps with low-stakes trivia and almanac questions + 7 more

Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical · Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical · Build an achievement file + 7 more

The calm “late-night FM DJ” voice · Regulate your tone · Use a warm, melodic voice to signal and receive safety + 7 more

Build meaning through concrete love and solidarity · Revolt: keep living fully despite the absurd · Acknowledge the absurd without flinching + 7 more

Pain of Paying, Made Practical · Use cash for categories where you consistently overspend · Translate prices into hours of work + 7 more

Understanding trait change — what shifts and what does not · Track self-stability over time · Use reciprocal determinism to change behavior by changing environment or cognition first + 7 more

Pain of Paying, Made Practical · Use cash for categories where you consistently overspend · Use the pain of paying to slow down spending + 7 more

Attachment Theory, Made Usable · Identify your attachment pattern · Build secure-functioning habits + 7 more

Choose between carrots and sticks based on your goal type · Apply the experiential processes early, behavioral ones later · Engineer your physical environment to create opportunity + 7 more

Panic Surfing · Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving · Plan ahead for predictable triggers + 7 more

Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life · Frame losses that grow over time as compounding · Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate + 7 more

Panic Surfing · Use the dive reflex as a first-response to panic · Surf the escape urge without acting on it + 7 more

Build a library of cases and reason from them · Conduct premortems on your past recognition failures · Build pattern libraries through deliberate case exposure + 7 more

Panic Surfing · Use the dive reflex as a first-response to panic · Surf the escape urge without acting on it + 7 more

Social Proof, Made Practical · Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof · Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity + 7 more

Parkinson's Law, Made Practical · Apply time pressure to collapse trivial task duration · Parkinson’s Law of Triviality: Stop Bikeshedding + 7 more

Parkinson's Law, Made Practical · Apply time pressure to collapse trivial task duration · Parkinson’s Law of Triviality: Stop Bikeshedding + 7 more

Pay Yourself First, Made Practical · Automate the transfer so it happens without a decision · Escalate the amount gradually with income + 7 more

Catastrophizing (magnification and jumping to conclusions) · Check for catastrophizing · Anti-awfulizing: scale the badness honestly + 7 more

Competing (assertive, uncooperative) · Collaborating (assertive and cooperative) · Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others + 7 more

Use logical consequences that fit the behavior · Follow through on the stated consequence calmly and without anger · Design logical consequences that are directly related to the behavior + 7 more

Pay Yourself First, Made Practical · Prepare coping self-talk in advance · Automate the transfer so it happens without a decision + 7 more

Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World · Reviewing the Results and Extracting the Learning · Behavioral experiments + 7 more

Peg System Mnemonics, Made Practical · Encode numbers with the Major System · Build your number-shape peg list + 7 more

The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical · Feedback Loops and Behavior Change · Install feedback loops to track behavior and adjust + 7 more

Peg System Mnemonics, Made Practical · Consolidate peg images with spaced review · Build your number-shape peg list + 7 more

Build tolerance for uncertainty through graduated exposure · Uncertainty Tolerance Training · Identify your intolerance-of-uncertainty triggers + 7 more

Let the apology change the pattern · Offer concrete repair · Repair specifically when you were the one who caused harm + 7 more

Pendulation, Made Practical · Apply pendulation to everyday stress (not just trauma) · Oscillate between effort and recovery + 7 more

Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World · Reviewing the Results and Extracting the Learning · Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo + 7 more

Protect fondness actively during and after conflict · Turn toward during conflict, not just during calm · Apply pendulation to everyday stress (not just trauma) + 7 more

Exploit micro-transitions within your day as mini fresh-start moments · Time nudges to coincide with natural transition points · Capture context before every forced switch + 7 more

Apply pendulation to everyday stress (not just trauma) · Use stress signals as cycle-boundary alerts · Pendulation, Made Practical + 7 more

Regulate the level of distress in the system · Name the resistance out loud · Map your immunity to change + 7 more

Personal Kanban, Made Practical · Set up a simple To Do / Doing / Done board · Pull work rather than having it pushed to you + 7 more

Change exactly one element and observe what shifts · Act on exactly one change before cycling again · Substitute + 7 more

Personal Kanban, Made Practical · Pull work rather than having it pushed to you · Set up a simple To Do / Doing / Done board + 7 more

Cultivate a scout identity: "I’m the kind of person who updates" · Track self-stability over time · Update the self-concept incrementally + 7 more

Personal Kanban, Made Practical · Set up a simple To Do / Doing / Done board · Pull work rather than having it pushed to you + 7 more

Identify your current rung · Pacing breath to the state a task needs · Cultivate a scout identity: "I’m the kind of person who updates" + 7 more

Generate a balanced alternative · Cognitive Restructuring: The CBT Method for Changing Unhelpful Thoughts · Cognitive restructuring + 7 more

The seasonal values revisit · Run an annual values-spending alignment review · The time-boxed trial + 7 more

Pierre Hadot’s Spiritual Exercises · Act as if sages were watching — the practice of the philosophical community · Pair philosophical practice with physical exercise + 7 more

Pierre Hadot’s Spiritual Exercises · Pair philosophical practice with physical exercise · Prosoche — the practice of attention + 7 more

Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical · Build buffer blocks into the ideal week · Protect mornings for deep work — no internal meetings before noon + 7 more

Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement · Invite a response after delivering SBI · Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness + 7 more

Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical · Build buffer blocks into the ideal week · Protect fondness actively during and after conflict + 7 more

Distinguish risk from ambiguity before reacting · Use maximin reasoning for high-stakes, irreversible decisions under ambiguity · Run small bets to convert ambiguity into data + 7 more

Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical · Build buffer blocks into the ideal week · Create a brief cope ahead card to take into the situation + 7 more

Rank your top values · The forced-rank sort · Run a values card sort + 7 more

Rank your top values · The forced-rank sort · Values clarification through lived evidence + 7 more

Set explicit work-technology boundaries to stop techno-invasion · Parkinson's Law, Made Practical · Right livelihood — ethical audit of how you earn and spend your time + 7 more

Choose what to address and whether to address it at all · Close with a specific, confirmed, next-step commitment · Notice and question the story you’ve already told yourself + 7 more

Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) · Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule · Use family meetings to solve problems together + 7 more

Never Split the Difference, In Practice · The Ackerman Method, Made Practical · The accusation audit + 7 more

Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) · Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule · Be kind AND firm — simultaneously, not alternately + 7 more

Social Proof, Made Practical · Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Social proof + 7 more

Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) · Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule · Refuse to energize negative behavior + 7 more

Use check-in and check-out rounds to hold the whole person · Open every circle by naming shared values · Design a centerpiece that holds the circle’s purpose + 7 more

Positive Psychology, Made Practical · Benefit-Finding in Adversity, Made Practical · Access positive emotion during adversity, not after + 7 more

Protect fondness actively during and after conflict · Access positive emotion during adversity, not after · Benefit-Finding in Adversity, Made Practical + 7 more

Use "take the best": choose on your single most informative cue · Pair the RACI with a decision log · Evaluate each option against your criteria before comparing options to each other + 7 more

Positive Psychology, Made Practical · Make extra deposits during difficult life periods · Access positive emotion during adversity, not after + 7 more

Values-Based Spending, Made Practical · Elicit your actual values before looking at your budget · Design conscious spending categories around your values + 7 more

Possible Selves, Made Practical · Build a behavioral bridge to the possible self · Find living examples of your hoped-for self + 7 more

Transform the relationship, not just the issue · Identify your default conflict mode · Competing (assertive, uncooperative) + 7 more

Possible Selves, Made Practical · Recognise stress-driven backup behaviour · Inventory your coping resources (secondary appraisal) + 7 more

Values Clarification, Made Practical · Values Card Sort · Take value-consistent committed action + 7 more

Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical · Understand what PTG is — and is not · How growth is supported (not forced) + 7 more

Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical · Anticipate and recognize growth from stress after the fact · Understand what PTG is — and is not + 7 more

Power Posing Revisited · Understand the "become it" claim accurately · Convey power + 7 more

Power Posing Revisited · Competing (assertive, uncooperative) · Protect fondness actively during and after conflict + 7 more

Power Posing Revisited · Learn to recognize your challenge vs. threat physiological state · Practice the "see it, own it, use it" reappraisal + 7 more

Pre-Performance Routines, Made Practical · Design your pre-performance sequence with clear functional anchors · Create a pre-performance ritual that includes posture + 7 more

Identify the reinforcing and balancing loops · Interrupt runaway negative feedback loops before they become self-reinforcing · Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle + 7 more

Pre-Performance Routines, Made Practical · Practice routine disruption so it doesn’t derail performance · Design your pre-performance sequence with clear functional anchors + 7 more

Identify the reinforcing and balancing loops · Feedback Loops and Behavior Change · Interrupt runaway negative feedback loops before they become self-reinforcing + 7 more

Pre-Performance Routines, Made Practical · Standardize the duration of your routine · Design your pre-performance sequence with clear functional anchors + 7 more

Close with a specific, confirmed, next-step commitment · Describe the gap between expectation and reality, not your interpretation · Move to action + 7 more

Pre-Suasion, Made Practical · Place your message in a context that evokes the right associations · Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask + 7 more

Invite a response after delivering SBI · Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement · Signal clearly when you’re done with a request before moving on + 7 more

Competing (assertive, uncooperative) · Pre-Suasion, Made Practical · Protect fondness actively during and after conflict + 7 more

Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle · Identify the reinforcing and balancing loops · Feedback Loops and Behavior Change + 7 more

Pre-Suasion, Made Practical · Practice the "see it, own it, use it" reappraisal · Place your message in a context that evokes the right associations + 7 more

Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical · Evaluate the outcome and adjust · Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works + 7 more

Separate the person from the problem · Transform the relationship, not just the issue · Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively + 7 more

Co-Regulation: Borrowing Calm From Another Nervous System · Connect before you correct · Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits + 7 more

Manage emotional arousal before and during problem solving · Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical · Evaluate solutions against costs, benefits, and fit + 7 more

Close the GROW loop with session review · Share the review with someone who will ask honest questions · Conduct a daily after-action review with zero excuses + 7 more