Coaching practices for How to Maintain Self Respect
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- I keep acting against what I say I value and breaking the small promises I make to myself, and each time I lose a little face with the one person I can never get away from
- I keep swallowing what I actually want and going along to keep the peace, and every time I stay silent against my own wishes it quietly tells me my needs don’t matter
- I "won" the argument — I got exactly what I was after — but I walked away with a sour feeling, because I got it by needling them and bending the truth, and I’m realizing whether I got my way isn’t actually the question I should be asking; it’s whether I can respect how I behaved to get it.
- When the pressure builds in a conversation, I cave on something I actually believe in just to make the discomfort stop
- I bend over backwards to be fair to everyone else and then quietly leave myself out of the equation entirely
Practices that may help
- The practice of personal integrity
Keep your behavior aligned with your stated values — match your walk to your talk.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
FAST — Fair, Apologies (no unnecessary ones), Stick to values, Truthful — is a DBT interpersonal effectiveness skill developed by Marsha Linehan for maintaining self-respect in relationships. While DEAR MAN aims for getting what you need and GIVE aims for relationship health, FAST targets the internal cost: whether you feel like yourself and respect yourself after the interaction. - The practice of self-assertiveness
Honor your wants, needs, and values by expressing them in the world — appropriately and openly.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Use self-respect as the outcome measure — not just whether you got what you wanted
After any difficult interaction, ask: "Do I respect myself for how I showed up?" — not just "did I win?"
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - Stick to Values: act consistently with what actually matters to you
Before compromising a position, check whether the compromise conflicts with a core value — and hold if it does.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - The practice of self-acceptance
Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Affirm a different value after a failure
When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical - Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard
Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
Related concerns
- Goal Relationship Self Respect
After any difficult interaction, ask: "Do I respect myself for how I showed up?" — not just "did I win?"
Use self-respect as the outcome measure — not just whether you got what you wanted
- Objective Relationship Self Respect
After any difficult interaction, ask: "Do I respect myself for how I showed up?" — not just "did I win?"
- Self Respect Communication
FAST — Fair, Apologies (no unnecessary ones), Stick to values, Truthful — is a DBT interpersonal effectiveness skill developed by Marsha Linehan for maintaining self-respect in relationships. While DEAR MAN aims for getting what you need and GIVE aims for relationship health, FAST targets the internal cost: whether you feel like yourself and respect yourself after the interaction.
- Self Respect In Relationships
FAST — Fair, Apologies (no unnecessary ones), Stick to values, Truthful — is a DBT interpersonal effectiveness skill developed by Marsha Linehan for maintaining self-respect in relationships. While DEAR MAN aims for getting what you need and GIVE aims for relationship health, FAST targets the internal cost: whether you feel like yourself and respect yourself after the interaction.
- Self Respect Through Values
Before compromising a position, check whether the compromise conflicts with a core value — and hold if it does.
Stick to Values: act consistently with what actually matters to you
- Dignity Therapy
FAST — Fair, Apologies (no unnecessary ones), Stick to values, Truthful — is a DBT interpersonal effectiveness skill developed by Marsha Linehan for maintaining self-respect in relationships. While DEAR MAN aims for getting what you need and GIVE aims for relationship health, FAST targets the internal cost: whether you feel like yourself and respect yourself after the interaction.
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