Take yourself lightly: the wise-fool practice
Let yourself laugh at how seriously you take your own growth.
Por qué funciona
Cook-Greuter (2018) proposes a link between the capacity to see through the ego’s games and the archetype of the fool, and suggests that laughing wholeheartedly and with compassion at the human condition is a sign of ego maturity. Seriousness, in her account, is one of the ways the ego keeps its project important; laughter loosens that grip without needing to defeat anything.
Cómo hacerlo
- Pick a grievance you have about your own growth or about the world not being as it should.
- Complain about it out loud, exaggerating, for as long as it takes until the complaint itself starts to sound absurd.
- Let the laugh come if it comes; do not force it.
- Afterward, write one sentence about yourself in the voice of a kind, irreverent friend.
Evidencia
The fool archetype and laughter as an indicator of maturity are Cook-Greuter’s proposal in her 2018 essay, which is based on a conference keynote and workshop. The exaggerated-complaint exercise is the "sacred laughter" practice she reports being introduced in that workshop. This is a practitioner account, not research. (anecdotal)
Humor can also be used to deflect. Laughing at yourself is different from mocking yourself or brushing off something that genuinely hurts.
Fuentes
Error común
Laughing at other people’s seriousness instead of your own. The fool in Cook-Greuter’s account is always also laughing at their own confusion.
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