Coaching pour les défis que les gens apportent vraiment (page 339)

Map the relational structure, not the surface features · Conduct premortems on your past recognition failures · Use analogies to transfer structure from known to unknown + 7 more

Estimating work in pomodoros · Calendar time blocking · Separate "will-do" from "to-do" lists + 7 more

Map your habit cues before trying to change the behavior · Map the cue-routine-reward loop · Identify your cue + 7 more

Receiving and holding a first koan · Ask the felt sense what it needs · Drill down with the five whys + 7 more

Review across a week to detect patterns, not just daily incidents · Recurring pattern identification · Apply the never-miss-twice rule when the chain does break + 7 more

Learn the two-process model of sleep · Avoid daytime naps when treating insomnia · Avoid the wake maintenance zone (avoid early evening naps) + 7 more

Write the hypothesis before you act · Form a testable prediction before you act · Evaluate the outcome and adjust + 7 more

Mine your defining stories · Repeat, loop, or return to an old idea deliberately · Lead ideation with deep user empathy + 7 more

Protect a block of uninterrupted attention · Schedule dedicated deep work blocks · Minimize attention residue between tasks + 7 more

Practice virtues as interconnected, not separate · Identifying your root middah (soul-trait) · Track the relationships between parts + 7 more

Replace attention-economy consumption with intentional alternatives · Surf the urge instead of fighting it · Redirect attention away from the reward + 7 more

Choose between carrots and sticks based on your goal type · Design a genuine positive reinforcer for the target behavior · Build a craving deliberately to cement a new habit + 7 more

Rest-and-digest activation — understanding your baseline state · Let the mind settle of its own accord · Adopt a passive attitude toward intruding thoughts + 7 more

When to use cold water vs. slow breathing for down-regulation · TIPP: Rapid Physiological De-escalation for Intense Distress · TIPP — change your body chemistry fast + 7 more

Regulate the body before you process the story · Manage emotional arousal before and during problem solving · Come down from hyperarousal + 7 more

Process notes just in time, not just in case · Know when not to process: most notes are fine as-is · Capture what resonates — not everything + 7 more

Replace the old behavior with a healthier substitute · Fire the new routine on the original cue · Surf the urge instead of fighting it + 7 more

Seeing the eight factors as a mutually supporting system, not a checklist · Sub-skill isolation and sequencing · Decompose complex skills into learnable chunks + 7 more

Use the "little and often" approach for long projects · Schedule dedicated deep work blocks · Time-block your ONE thing + 7 more

Treat the Hedgehog as a hypothesis that iterates · Wayfinding with a Good Time Journal · Develop interest, don’t just wait to find it + 7 more

Understand the "become it" claim accurately · Act before you feel ready · Accumulate small creative wins to rebuild confidence + 7 more

Build secure-functioning habits · Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score · Move toward a secure baseline -- in yourself first + 7 more

Use the Done column to learn about your work patterns · Log actual vs. estimated time for every task · Estimating work in pomodoros + 7 more

Calculate your FIRE number · Recognize the "one more year" behavioral trap · Understand and apply the 4% rule to set your FI number + 7 more

Track the relationships between parts · Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT) · Inquire into what the critic is protecting + 7 more

Identify your meta-beliefs about worry and rumination · Separate solvable worries from unsolvable ones · Distinguish actionable from non-actionable worries + 7 more

Understand why the sandwich fails before replacing it · Make praise as specific as criticism · Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback + 7 more

Preferred Future: Describing Life When the Problem Is Solved · The best-possible-self exercise · Return from proportion to action + 7 more

Remove the conditions that enable the handicap · Write an if–then plan for your biggest obstacle · Use if-then planning to bypass depleted willpower + 7 more

Run fear-setting alongside goal-setting · Capture compelling reasons why · Attach approach goals to implementation intentions + 7 more

Multiply time and resource investment in the vital few · Identify your highest-value hours and protect them · Apply the 80/20 rule + 7 more

Build energy rituals that automate oscillation · Oscillate between effort and recovery · Use a shutdown ritual + 7 more

Run a four-quadrant energy audit · Manage emotional energy · Recognize and name existential vacuum when it appears + 7 more

Yoga body scan for interoceptive stress awareness · The body scan · Tracking shadow material through the body + 7 more

Distinguish catalysts and nourishers from their opposites · Run a four-quadrant energy audit · Align your goals with the developmental task of your season + 7 more

Box breathing as a sleep-onset tool · Yoga nidra as a wind-down · Use PMR to wind down for sleep + 7 more

Optimize the nap environment for fast onset and clean waking · Set up a nap-friendly environment · Set up a reliable nap environment + 7 more

Evaluate the outcome and adjust · Therapeutic Letters · The Formula First-Session Task and Between-Session Noticing + 7 more

Copy masters to see how they made choices you take for granted · Approach your own work with beginner’s mind · Collect your influences deliberately + 7 more

Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance · Reframe feedback from outcome to process · Review actions through the reserve clause lens + 7 more

Combining lectio divina with centering prayer · Moving from reading into wordless presence · Contemplatio: resting in wordless presence + 7 more

Trust their capacity to find their own way · Give the work back without abandoning people · Acts of service + 7 more

Imagine the absence of someone you love · Imagine the absence of a key relationship · The last conversation + 7 more

Distinguish functional from dysfunctional procrastination · Acknowledge the procrastination without self-condemnation · Use structured self-compassion after delay — not self-criticism + 7 more

Weekly matrix review · Run a quarterly focus review to refresh the lists · Do a brief weekly review and planning session + 7 more

Maintain a scored prediction log · Log probability estimates before the outcome · Score your own past predictions to calibrate your outside-view use + 7 more

Keep a decision journal to score your EV estimates · Maintain a scored prediction log · Practice probabilistic calibration by tracking your predictions + 7 more

Use a memento mori object · Value-object anchoring · The evening reckoning (examen) + 7 more

Reduce impulsivity by redesigning your environment · Work in a single window · Use mindfulness to notice the urge to delay without acting on it + 7 more

Reframe mistakes as the normal cost of doing hard things · Separate competence from performance · Maintain approach framing after a setback + 7 more

Forgive the first miss completely · Plan the recovery before the chain breaks · Never miss twice + 7 more

Contemplate your health as a gift · Take the perspective of someone without what you have · Voluntary discomfort for contrast + 7 more

Create micro-mattering moments every day · One warm connection a day · Cultivating a present-moment aesthetic + 7 more

Notice and name experience from observer position · Talk to yourself in the third person · Third-person labeling to activate the witness + 7 more

Set your posture before high-stakes moments · Informal counting — using the practice during ordinary tasks · Internalize the rhythm to breathe without a pacer + 7 more

Cut ruthlessly in categories that serve no value · Cut costs mercilessly on things you don’t value · Audit subscriptions to restore visibility to invisible spending + 7 more

Build interoceptive literacy — reading your body before it escalates · Track your personal early-warning signals · Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after + 7 more

Take a full rest day weekly · Use a shutdown ritual · Disconnect from screens and inputs + 7 more

Use expanding review intervals · Schedule a second review 24–48 hours later · Mix review of older material with study of new material in every session + 7 more

Define "done" before you start · Using "enough" as a stopping rule · Tolerating and valuing incompleteness + 7 more

Spot redemption and contamination sequences · Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel · Revise your life narrative when it limits you + 7 more

Build reciprocity reserves over time, not just in the moment · Build the network before you need it · Give before you take + 7 more

Do the unsexy work no one else sees · Show up daily — especially on uninspired days · Follow genuine interest, not strategic interest + 7 more

Create psychological safety around missing a stretch target · Calibrate stretch with a target score · Reframe failure as information, not verdict + 7 more

Cultivate identity-safe relationships · Apply anti-goals to relationships and collaborators · Understand why you’re attracted to someone opposite -- without pathologizing it + 7 more

Use karma yoga as a practice of ethical purification · Drive all blames into one · Use the feared self as an early-warning system + 7 more

Shorten your PDSA cycles until feedback is near-daily · Calibrate feedback frequency to the behavior cycle · Designate 2-3 scheduled checking windows per day + 7 more

Schedule boundary conversations — don’t have them reactively · Follow through with consequences · Communicate boundaries directly + 7 more

Track character, not just outcomes · Evaluate decisions by process, not outcome · Score decision quality separately from outcome quality + 7 more

Make napping a consistent daily practice · Use a strategic nap to service acute sleep debt · Use strategic naps to partially service acute sleep debt + 7 more

Build the network before you need it · Give before you take · Build reciprocity reserves over time, not just in the moment + 7 more

Intentional field-crossing · Build a deliberately broad input diet · Collect models deliberately from fields outside your specialty + 7 more

Make deep rest a regular practice · Schedule recovery proactively, not reactively · Returning to roots — regular renewal + 7 more

Rehearse the response before you need it · Turn top risks into tripwires · Solution-space exploration + 7 more

Practice titration with low-stakes material to build the skill · Titration (work in tiny, tolerable doses) · Rehearse the response before you need it + 7 more

Daily 12-minute ATT practice · Build coping skills before the storm · Build defusion as a daily microhabit + 7 more

Hydrate before and after exercise — not just during · Replace electrolytes when you sweat a lot · Include electrolytes when hydration demands are high + 7 more

Open with a concrete story, not with your framework · Cycle from concrete to abstract and back · Lead with the answer, not the build-up + 7 more

Sequence creative tasks before reactive tasks each day · Protect the first 30 minutes from screens · Morning pages + 7 more

Identify most important tasks (MITs) each morning · Batch reactive and administrative tasks into designated windows · Batch all reactive tasks into defined windows + 7 more

Use flash tonglen in the moment of encountering suffering · Direct tonglen toward a specific suffering person · Acknowledge: name what is hard + 7 more

Build in buffer · Buffer and overflow blocks · Begin the day with a reserve-clause plan + 7 more

Invest more development effort in your strengths than in your weaknesses · Less but better · Practice deliberately, not just repeatedly + 7 more

Treating friendship as the most essential pleasure · Weak-tie maintenance rituals · Schedule deliberate investment in your important friendships + 7 more

Dose caffeine by need, not by habit · Single-task with full sensory attention as a beginner · Savoring everyday moments + 7 more

Oscillate between effort and recovery · Build a sustainable rhythm of effort and recovery · Build rhythmic oscillation between stress and recovery + 7 more

Create a brief entry ritual to mark the transition · Set a hard stop time for all screens · Fill the void with a prepared analog activity + 7 more

Disclose your own style preferences to others · Challenge directly · Share advice with permission (ask–offer–ask) + 7 more

Choose your window length based on your actual goal · Set a time-restricted eating window · Anchor meals with protein and fiber + 7 more

Self-explain each step as you work through an example · Study a fully worked example before attempting a new problem type · Study a worked example before attempting to solve a similar problem + 7 more

Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life · Spend real time on growth, not just tasks · Plan from roles and goals, not from tasks + 7 more

Arrive: openly notice what is happening right now · Regular emotional check-in · The three-minute breathing space + 7 more

Align spending deliberately with stated values · Allocate part of your values budget to others · Audit what you actually miss during the fast + 7 more

Audit your time against your values · Know thyself — map your actual values against your actions · Values clarification through lived evidence + 7 more

Values clarification through lived evidence · Audit your time against your values · Check action against stated values — the alignment review + 7 more

Audit the reference groups driving your spending · Apply a deliberate checklist before any lifestyle upgrade · Name the adaptation before you upgrade + 7 more

Reward progress intermittently rather than every time · Use escalating rewards to maintain motivation across time · Introduce controlled novelty into your routines + 7 more

Select backup reinforcers that are genuinely motivating — not what should motivate you · Reward progress intermittently rather than every time · Design a genuine positive reinforcer for the target behavior + 7 more

Developing a solid but flexible self · Track self-stability over time · Holding onto yourself under relational pressure + 7 more

Practice calibrated self-disclosure to allow genuine connection · Normalize the messy process, not just the polished result · Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel + 7 more